Your biggest enemy is yourself

In order to be successful with women, you have to know the
right kind of characteristics to display to women.

In the dating field, your biggest enemy is YOURSELF. 
It's usually in your INSECURITIES and fear that she will leave
you that sobconciously makes most guys cling tightly to the
women they like.

But the more clingy you get, the further you'll repel her
away from you.

Most guys feel that they have to "chase" a woman in order to
make her yours.

The paradox to it is that we humans are naturally programmed
to run from that which pursues us. 
If you want to get good at this, my advice is for you to
start working on DEVELOPING your personality first... more
than anything else.

Humans are naturally attracted to things that are unique.

They are also attracted to things that are superior.


what happens when you "open up" yourself
too early during the courting phase.

Not a wise thing to do.
When a guy wants to be more than 'just friends' with a girl,
this is what usually happens:

- He will usually convince, coax and worst still, PERSUADE her
into seeing him as a potential boyfriend before making a move
on her.

- His plan of action will usually be to 'be there for her'
when she's in need.

- He'll be her intellectual whore, falsely hoping & attentively
listening to her bitching about the guys in her life, carefully
assuring her he'd make a better boyfriend than her current one.

Basically any form of trying to reason and persuade why she
should open up her heart and accept you... IT WON'T WORK!

You can't just "make" a woman "like you" or "change how she
feels about you" by doing nice things, reasoning and trying
to convince her into it...

Because women aren't anything like us at all.

They don't suddenly wake up one day, make a logical, conscious
decision and say "hey, he seems like a caring, sweet, nice man,
I think it's time for me to fall in love with him."

She won't suddenly 'decide' she wants to be attracted to you.
Attraction is not based on logic and will NEVER be.

A woman is either attracted to you or she's not.

It just happens!

For an average, typical guy, even at his very best, attraction
happens in a LINEAR fashion...

"So what do women really want?"

Here's my take on it:

What women say they want is not really what they want,
because 
WHAT THEY WANT IS FOR A MAN TO GIVE THEM WHAT THEY
WANT WITHOUT HAVING TO TELL THEM.

That's the best way to describe it.

Let me give you an example. Want to know why sending flowers
to women works for some?

It's NOT the flowers themselves that make her smile, but
the GESTURE.

It's proof that he THOUGHT about her that day.

It's an excuse to brag about him to her friends.

It isn't the bouquet that matters; it's the TIME it took him
to choose, buy and deliver them.

Want to know why some women go all excited when a guy brings
them out on romantic dinners?

It's NOT that he was willing to spend the money on her, it's
more the time, the thoughtful PLANNING he took to find out
what she likes that struck her chord.