Romantic tension faster than almost anything else!
You are going out for the first time. Some people in such situations have the bad habit of asking out of the blue something like "So, do you do this often?"
And from there, the conversation goes into discussing prior dating experiences. BAD IDEA!
it has NOTHING to do with romance and romantic tension.
Thursday 11 December 2008
Arousal her feeling with you
EVERYTHING and it rings true in ALL aspects of your interactions with women. The more emotions she feels around you, the stronger an impression you'll make. The more interesting things she learns about you and tells you about herself, the more deeply she'll feel connected to you.
And the more places she visits and things she does and sees with you, the longer she'll feel she's known you. And the longer a woman who is attracted to you has known you, the more inclined she will be to acting on that attraction and go further with you into a deeper, more "romantic" relationships.
What you want is for your girl to come with you on a handful of different adventures, you want to keep stirring up emotions in her; happy, sad, annoyed, angry, irritated, fun, sensual, sexual, flirty, etc... it doesn't really matter.
So again, it's really more about MEMORIES you create in her and less about the TIME you know each other that sparks attraction in a woman. Sharing more experiences in a shorter amount of time makes a closer, DEEPER connection.
The premise of distorting a woman's senses to spark attraction is based on a psychological phenomenon known as Response Facilitation (RF).
This is the process of strengthening the dominant response in a particular situation. You are going to use it to strengthen her emotional responses and get her to REALLY like you and see you a little more than a friend. This is how it works.
Understand that emotions basically consist of two parts: a cognitive component (what you're thinking) and a physiological component (what you're feeling).
For example, if you're thrilled with someone, you're thinking all kinds of "exciting" thoughts about that person. You're also experiencing certain physiological sensations throughout your body that indicate that you're excited such as an increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, mild sweating, adrenaline surging throughout your veins, etc..
You'll have to think of ways to come up with situations where she is highly likely to experience increased levels of arousal, and to pair YOURSELF with that arousal. So, in a nutshell, you should be able to take a girl who likes you (someone who has mild physiological arousal when you're around) and make her REALLY like you, by adding "extra" arousal to the situation.
The extra arousal will add up with that that is already present so as to increase the intensity of her emotional response toward you. So how do you go about it doing it? You do it by simply doing enjoyable AND arousing things together by having fun AND amping up the teasing, flirting and sexual tension when you're together.
Most of these activities involve doing something FUN and extremely enjoyable that appeals to her five senses. FUN and arousal, if you don't already know, always leads to LOVE and PASSION.
For example... You can take her to an amusement park. The crazy rollercoasters, drenching waterslides, breath-taking ferri wheels will not only increase her heart rate but also her sense of arousal. It gives you both a chance to hug one another, to accidentally touch, kiss, hold one another, and so on...
As you're both getting onboard the rollercoaster, you give her your hand, she grabs it, you hold on to it, you look deep into her eyes, if she doesn't let go, it means she likes it.
As you're flying up and down, if she's comfortable with you, she might hug on to you and you grab on tightly to her and bring her closer into you.
The smallest of things, the simplest of things works wonders, the activities you're doing together will give you unlimited opportunities , to get physical with her, unlike everyday shopping and boring talk will ever do.
It won't look like you're taking advantage or that you're trying to put a move and on her because it's as NATURAL as it can ever be!
Festivals are also good as these places provide a kind of speed and excitement that makes people feel more alive and elated. If you want to intensify her feelings, you should take her to these places so that she loses track of time passing. Take her to a place where there are constant ACTIVITY and MOVEMENT so she gets caught up in the atmosphere - embark on some kind of journey together, distract her mind with new sights, new people, new experiences.
The pace of your seduction and attraction effort must pick up at a certain moment to create a whirling effect in her mind. The point is for you to get creative in creating OPPORTUNITIES for yourself in order for her to to see a WHOLE NEW SIDE to you that she's NEVER seen and experienced before.
And the more places she visits and things she does and sees with you, the longer she'll feel she's known you. And the longer a woman who is attracted to you has known you, the more inclined she will be to acting on that attraction and go further with you into a deeper, more "romantic" relationships.
What you want is for your girl to come with you on a handful of different adventures, you want to keep stirring up emotions in her; happy, sad, annoyed, angry, irritated, fun, sensual, sexual, flirty, etc... it doesn't really matter.
So again, it's really more about MEMORIES you create in her and less about the TIME you know each other that sparks attraction in a woman. Sharing more experiences in a shorter amount of time makes a closer, DEEPER connection.
The premise of distorting a woman's senses to spark attraction is based on a psychological phenomenon known as Response Facilitation (RF).
This is the process of strengthening the dominant response in a particular situation. You are going to use it to strengthen her emotional responses and get her to REALLY like you and see you a little more than a friend. This is how it works.
Understand that emotions basically consist of two parts: a cognitive component (what you're thinking) and a physiological component (what you're feeling).
For example, if you're thrilled with someone, you're thinking all kinds of "exciting" thoughts about that person. You're also experiencing certain physiological sensations throughout your body that indicate that you're excited such as an increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, mild sweating, adrenaline surging throughout your veins, etc..
You'll have to think of ways to come up with situations where she is highly likely to experience increased levels of arousal, and to pair YOURSELF with that arousal. So, in a nutshell, you should be able to take a girl who likes you (someone who has mild physiological arousal when you're around) and make her REALLY like you, by adding "extra" arousal to the situation.
The extra arousal will add up with that that is already present so as to increase the intensity of her emotional response toward you. So how do you go about it doing it? You do it by simply doing enjoyable AND arousing things together by having fun AND amping up the teasing, flirting and sexual tension when you're together.
Most of these activities involve doing something FUN and extremely enjoyable that appeals to her five senses. FUN and arousal, if you don't already know, always leads to LOVE and PASSION.
For example... You can take her to an amusement park. The crazy rollercoasters, drenching waterslides, breath-taking ferri wheels will not only increase her heart rate but also her sense of arousal. It gives you both a chance to hug one another, to accidentally touch, kiss, hold one another, and so on...
As you're both getting onboard the rollercoaster, you give her your hand, she grabs it, you hold on to it, you look deep into her eyes, if she doesn't let go, it means she likes it.
As you're flying up and down, if she's comfortable with you, she might hug on to you and you grab on tightly to her and bring her closer into you.
The smallest of things, the simplest of things works wonders, the activities you're doing together will give you unlimited opportunities , to get physical with her, unlike everyday shopping and boring talk will ever do.
It won't look like you're taking advantage or that you're trying to put a move and on her because it's as NATURAL as it can ever be!
Festivals are also good as these places provide a kind of speed and excitement that makes people feel more alive and elated. If you want to intensify her feelings, you should take her to these places so that she loses track of time passing. Take her to a place where there are constant ACTIVITY and MOVEMENT so she gets caught up in the atmosphere - embark on some kind of journey together, distract her mind with new sights, new people, new experiences.
The pace of your seduction and attraction effort must pick up at a certain moment to create a whirling effect in her mind. The point is for you to get creative in creating OPPORTUNITIES for yourself in order for her to to see a WHOLE NEW SIDE to you that she's NEVER seen and experienced before.
Avoid texting
Gets a girl's phone number and then a couple of days later, instead of calling her,texting her it's not the best move. Calling and hearing a voice is so much more powerful, so much more compelling and makes such a stronger impression.
Text messages have their purpose - they are great when you are somewhere where you can't talk but you need to contact someone. However, when it comes to talking to a woman for the first time after you met her, texting should definitely be avoided.
You see, there are two kinds of males out there from a woman's perspective - the men and the "boys." If you are interested in being attractive to women, you should strongly consider being a "man." A man keeps his communication with a woman at a higher level and keeps the "high school" means of communication such as myspace, IM, and texting to the minimum, if at all. This automatically distinguishes him from many other guys and makes him stand out as a more mature and thus - a more attractive man.
Text messages have their purpose - they are great when you are somewhere where you can't talk but you need to contact someone. However, when it comes to talking to a woman for the first time after you met her, texting should definitely be avoided.
You see, there are two kinds of males out there from a woman's perspective - the men and the "boys." If you are interested in being attractive to women, you should strongly consider being a "man." A man keeps his communication with a woman at a higher level and keeps the "high school" means of communication such as myspace, IM, and texting to the minimum, if at all. This automatically distinguishes him from many other guys and makes him stand out as a more mature and thus - a more attractive man.
Fixing her hair
There is very powerful way to show your attractive confidence
when you are out with a woman on a first date -So, you sit down at a table, having coffee or anything else you like to drink, you talk, you laugh, and things are going well.
Then, at a certain point in a conversation when you see that she feels comfortable talking to you and interested in what you have to say (perhaps 30-60 minutes after you met), you look her in the eye, as you talk, and you slowly, carefully but with a touch of affection fix her hair at the front of her head/face.
The key to a successful execution of this move is in NOT making a big deal out of it and not drawing any attention to it. In other words, imagine changing your sitting position as you talk. Would you ever discuss the factthat you changed the way you sit on a chair? Of course not.
Well, the same applies to fixing her hair with your finger. This will show that it was absolutely natural for you to do it, it wasn'ta big deal, you are completely comfortable with doing it and you didn't hesitate even for one moment to do it. Casual, innocent but caring touchingis part of your nature and you feel comfortable with it. All of the abovewill indicate to a woman a lot of confidence in you.
when you are out with a woman on a first date -So, you sit down at a table, having coffee or anything else you like to drink, you talk, you laugh, and things are going well.
Then, at a certain point in a conversation when you see that she feels comfortable talking to you and interested in what you have to say (perhaps 30-60 minutes after you met), you look her in the eye, as you talk, and you slowly, carefully but with a touch of affection fix her hair at the front of her head/face.
The key to a successful execution of this move is in NOT making a big deal out of it and not drawing any attention to it. In other words, imagine changing your sitting position as you talk. Would you ever discuss the factthat you changed the way you sit on a chair? Of course not.
Well, the same applies to fixing her hair with your finger. This will show that it was absolutely natural for you to do it, it wasn'ta big deal, you are completely comfortable with doing it and you didn't hesitate even for one moment to do it. Casual, innocent but caring touchingis part of your nature and you feel comfortable with it. All of the abovewill indicate to a woman a lot of confidence in you.
Friday 7 November 2008
Pick up girls in club
When you're in a bar/club setting and you're looking out for IOIs (Indicators of Interest) to know whether a girl is interested if she:
Moves closer to you during your conversation
Asks if you have a girlfriend
Waits for you if you go somewhere (ie: to the bar or bathroom)
Stays with you when her friends move away
Touches you during the conversation
Talks about your girlfriend without asking if you have one (hoping that you'll say that you don't have a girlfriend)
It means she's interested... to a certain extent. I have to say that some times when you're out in the field, try not to place too much emphasis on looking for her to showyou 'signs' that she's interested.
You might get it if you're super good looking but your goal isto attract her with your PERSONALITY, NOT LOOKS.
And chances are, if you're not good looking, most girls (espin a bar/club setting) won't even bother to notice.
As you're out approaching women, you have to CREATE opportunities, not WAIT for them to present themselves to you.
Remember the 3-second rule! If you like someone, JUST GO and not hesitate. Anything longer than 3 seconds and you'll probably talk yourself out of doing it.
And once you get the IOIs, I would say you have ESCALATE the chance. Start touching her more, not groping, just let your hands gradually touch her.
For instance if you're moving places in the bar, put your arm down on her waist or shoulder and guide her. Even better, just grab her hand and walk with her. Trust me, if she likes you, she WON'T pull away.
The minute I'm holding hands with a girl I know I'm "in". That's when I'll start busting on her like mad and escalate iteven more... look right into her eyes,
"I so want to kissyou right now"... then I pull away, grab her and bring her to another area within the club.
Bring her along to as many "places" as you can to get her COMFORTABLE with you.
And when she LEAST expects it, you come from behind and smell her neck.
That being said, in terms of IOIs, once you get more than 4 or 5 of them from a girl, your next step should be to hold her hand. And then you gradually move on, STEP BY STEP.
Moves closer to you during your conversation
Asks if you have a girlfriend
Waits for you if you go somewhere (ie: to the bar or bathroom)
Stays with you when her friends move away
Touches you during the conversation
Talks about your girlfriend without asking if you have one (hoping that you'll say that you don't have a girlfriend)
It means she's interested... to a certain extent. I have to say that some times when you're out in the field, try not to place too much emphasis on looking for her to showyou 'signs' that she's interested.
You might get it if you're super good looking but your goal isto attract her with your PERSONALITY, NOT LOOKS.
And chances are, if you're not good looking, most girls (espin a bar/club setting) won't even bother to notice.
As you're out approaching women, you have to CREATE opportunities, not WAIT for them to present themselves to you.
Remember the 3-second rule! If you like someone, JUST GO and not hesitate. Anything longer than 3 seconds and you'll probably talk yourself out of doing it.
And once you get the IOIs, I would say you have ESCALATE the chance. Start touching her more, not groping, just let your hands gradually touch her.
For instance if you're moving places in the bar, put your arm down on her waist or shoulder and guide her. Even better, just grab her hand and walk with her. Trust me, if she likes you, she WON'T pull away.
The minute I'm holding hands with a girl I know I'm "in". That's when I'll start busting on her like mad and escalate iteven more... look right into her eyes,
"I so want to kissyou right now"... then I pull away, grab her and bring her to another area within the club.
Bring her along to as many "places" as you can to get her COMFORTABLE with you.
And when she LEAST expects it, you come from behind and smell her neck.
That being said, in terms of IOIs, once you get more than 4 or 5 of them from a girl, your next step should be to hold her hand. And then you gradually move on, STEP BY STEP.
Interesting conversation topics
If you want to attract a woman, what matters most is the ENERGY you bring to your interactions with her
NOT just boring talk. It's the ENERGY, the vibe that she FEELS when she's with you that will help her decide whether she wants to see you and spend time again with you in the future.
That being said, the stuff you SHOULD talk about?
Travel & Holidays - Women usually LOVE to travel As you're talking to her, be extremely DESCRIPTIVE as you're sharing your own exciting travel experiences.
This is where your storytelling skills come in. It's where you can draw her in to your reality and indirectly demonstrate your own qualities as someone who's fun, adventerous and EXCITING!
Fashion, style and Shopping - Women's FAVORITE. Here you can let her 'teach' you a thing or two about the latest trends, styles, where to get the best deals in town, etc.
Get her to be your fashion consultant, tell her you SUCK at it(don't worry, it's ok to suck when it comes to style,you're a GUY. Women know that guys generally SUCK when it comesto fashion)
Perfume/Jewelry - Tell her you LOVE how she's smelling, get her to talk about her favorite perfumes and comment on any jewelry she's wearing.
Women will LOVE you when they can talk to you about jewelry all night long...
Men and Relationships - The female population can never get enough talking about who's cheating on who, who's going out with whom, touching/romantic/funny love stories, basically anything about men and relationships will get her EXCITED to ramble on and on.
Celebrity Gossips - Gossips alone can be one. Adding the "celebrity" aspect into it, and you can start arguing and making fun of one another's opinions all day.
This can be a real "deal-closer" when you know how to integrate this aspect and turn it into a seductive interaction later on in your game.
Music - When you talk about her favorite songs, artists ormusic, drill in, dig AS DEEP as you can on the reasons why she loves it, get her to reveal what she's FEELING inside, get her to reveal the STORIES behind the MEANINGS of the songs she loves.
Note: There's ALWAYS a story, and your job is to dig it out ofher. Personal CONNECTIONS and BONDING can be established this way.
You can get A LOT of personal details about who she really is underneath when she talks.
The type of person she is and stuff. This is also one of my favorite ways to start amping up the sexual tension later on during a date with a woman.
NOT just boring talk. It's the ENERGY, the vibe that she FEELS when she's with you that will help her decide whether she wants to see you and spend time again with you in the future.
That being said, the stuff you SHOULD talk about?
Travel & Holidays - Women usually LOVE to travel As you're talking to her, be extremely DESCRIPTIVE as you're sharing your own exciting travel experiences.
This is where your storytelling skills come in. It's where you can draw her in to your reality and indirectly demonstrate your own qualities as someone who's fun, adventerous and EXCITING!
Fashion, style and Shopping - Women's FAVORITE. Here you can let her 'teach' you a thing or two about the latest trends, styles, where to get the best deals in town, etc.
Get her to be your fashion consultant, tell her you SUCK at it(don't worry, it's ok to suck when it comes to style,you're a GUY. Women know that guys generally SUCK when it comesto fashion)
Perfume/Jewelry - Tell her you LOVE how she's smelling, get her to talk about her favorite perfumes and comment on any jewelry she's wearing.
Women will LOVE you when they can talk to you about jewelry all night long...
Men and Relationships - The female population can never get enough talking about who's cheating on who, who's going out with whom, touching/romantic/funny love stories, basically anything about men and relationships will get her EXCITED to ramble on and on.
Celebrity Gossips - Gossips alone can be one. Adding the "celebrity" aspect into it, and you can start arguing and making fun of one another's opinions all day.
This can be a real "deal-closer" when you know how to integrate this aspect and turn it into a seductive interaction later on in your game.
Music - When you talk about her favorite songs, artists ormusic, drill in, dig AS DEEP as you can on the reasons why she loves it, get her to reveal what she's FEELING inside, get her to reveal the STORIES behind the MEANINGS of the songs she loves.
Note: There's ALWAYS a story, and your job is to dig it out ofher. Personal CONNECTIONS and BONDING can be established this way.
You can get A LOT of personal details about who she really is underneath when she talks.
The type of person she is and stuff. This is also one of my favorite ways to start amping up the sexual tension later on during a date with a woman.
I've got nothing to lose
Do you realize that when you're so into this ONE girl, it makes you try a little "too hard" to not "screw things up" and that can be BAD.
Even just "asking her out for a dance" Then comes "what should I... "How should I... "When should I (....) to make her happy and like me?"
This is the one-i-got syndrome.
It's when you only like that ONE special girl, you liked her too much to the point where and you simply CANNOT AFFORD to screw it up with her
THAT'S where the game is finished before it even starts with her.
Because the paradox to it is that the MORE you try not to screw it up, the MORE you'll actually end up screwing it anyway.
Even guys would normally "hold back" and "not be their usual selves" when they're with a girl they like fearing that they might say or do something wrong that might offend her and she'll just walk away?
The first thing you have to do is to go in with a "I've got nothing to lose" mindset.
If you were to compare the "success rates" between a guy who is ALREADY attached and something who's still single when their out with a girl, chances are the guy who already has a girlfriend will win... most of the time.
Why? Because whether he gets the girl at the end of the day ornot, he DOESN'T REALLY CARE. That's cos he'll go all out and does whatever he FEELS LIKE DOING to get her as he knows he has NOTHING TO LOSE. Next is for you to go out and HUNT for AT LEAST another 3 girls to mess with.
Advantages:
You'll get more REAL-LIFE practice
Your dating 'skills' will improve EXPONENTIALLY by going after 4 girls simultaneously.
You won't CARE whether you'll be screwing it up with this girl anymore.
Why does it help? With so many other options around you, you won't be looking to impress her, you'll become INDIFFERENT to the outcome when you're with her, and this in turn helps give you MORE BALLS to tease, mess and make fun of her even more which will eventually FUEL her interest in you even further.
How to be different?
1) Pretend that you've known her for YEARS (even if you don't), and that you're TOO comfortable around her.
Tease her, bust on her for something that no one DARES tease her about...
You: Hey where'd you get that bag? It SOO adorable!
Her: Thanks! Bla, bla, blaYou: I've soo gota get one for my mom
Her: Do you think I look fat in this?
You: I didn't want to say anything but...
Her: (mispronounces or fumbles on her words)
You: (turn to her friends) Is she always like this? Her: *Whacks*
2) Pretend that she's interested in YOU, and hasbeen pursuing YOU, and that you're resisting her.
You: (walk right in front of her and look back at her) Oh no you did NOT just check out my ass!)
Her: You're funny.You: Maybe that's why you like me :-)
Most guys will go all out to be nice, cordial, and friendly to her, give her compliments and stuff. You do a complete 180 on her.
There's just so many forms of teasing, busting and messing with women that you can use to bring out the "fun" and "flirty" energy in your interactions with women.
These are the stuff that INFLAMES a woman's inner passions and triggers magnetic emotions of ATTRACTION in her for YOU
You just have to WHEN and HOW to say it in a SYSTEMATIC, REPEATABLE way
Even just "asking her out for a dance" Then comes "what should I... "How should I... "When should I (....) to make her happy and like me?"
This is the one-i-got syndrome.
It's when you only like that ONE special girl, you liked her too much to the point where and you simply CANNOT AFFORD to screw it up with her
THAT'S where the game is finished before it even starts with her.
Because the paradox to it is that the MORE you try not to screw it up, the MORE you'll actually end up screwing it anyway.
Even guys would normally "hold back" and "not be their usual selves" when they're with a girl they like fearing that they might say or do something wrong that might offend her and she'll just walk away?
The first thing you have to do is to go in with a "I've got nothing to lose" mindset.
If you were to compare the "success rates" between a guy who is ALREADY attached and something who's still single when their out with a girl, chances are the guy who already has a girlfriend will win... most of the time.
Why? Because whether he gets the girl at the end of the day ornot, he DOESN'T REALLY CARE. That's cos he'll go all out and does whatever he FEELS LIKE DOING to get her as he knows he has NOTHING TO LOSE. Next is for you to go out and HUNT for AT LEAST another 3 girls to mess with.
Advantages:
You'll get more REAL-LIFE practice
Your dating 'skills' will improve EXPONENTIALLY by going after 4 girls simultaneously.
You won't CARE whether you'll be screwing it up with this girl anymore.
Why does it help? With so many other options around you, you won't be looking to impress her, you'll become INDIFFERENT to the outcome when you're with her, and this in turn helps give you MORE BALLS to tease, mess and make fun of her even more which will eventually FUEL her interest in you even further.
How to be different?
1) Pretend that you've known her for YEARS (even if you don't), and that you're TOO comfortable around her.
Tease her, bust on her for something that no one DARES tease her about...
You: Hey where'd you get that bag? It SOO adorable!
Her: Thanks! Bla, bla, blaYou: I've soo gota get one for my mom
Her: Do you think I look fat in this?
You: I didn't want to say anything but...
Her: (mispronounces or fumbles on her words)
You: (turn to her friends) Is she always like this? Her: *Whacks*
2) Pretend that she's interested in YOU, and hasbeen pursuing YOU, and that you're resisting her.
You: (walk right in front of her and look back at her) Oh no you did NOT just check out my ass!)
Her: You're funny.You: Maybe that's why you like me :-)
Most guys will go all out to be nice, cordial, and friendly to her, give her compliments and stuff. You do a complete 180 on her.
There's just so many forms of teasing, busting and messing with women that you can use to bring out the "fun" and "flirty" energy in your interactions with women.
These are the stuff that INFLAMES a woman's inner passions and triggers magnetic emotions of ATTRACTION in her for YOU
You just have to WHEN and HOW to say it in a SYSTEMATIC, REPEATABLE way
I make more money than you?
WHenever you come across guys who brags about how "I make more money than you", "I have a better body than you", you can do 2 things:
1 - IGNORE
2 - Ride with it:
"Yeah dude, I know, how'd you do it?"
"what's the secret?"
Guys who make fun, belittle and insult others are usually the MOST insecure.
The feeling of insecurity forces them to say things out in the open in front of women as a front to look "cool", at the same time hiding their own insecutities and FEAR of not knowing how to behave and act around women themselves.
If you confront him, it'll make the BOTH of you look CHILDISH in front of women
Just let it be and have the power to just WALK AWAY
1 - IGNORE
2 - Ride with it:
"Yeah dude, I know, how'd you do it?"
"what's the secret?"
Guys who make fun, belittle and insult others are usually the MOST insecure.
The feeling of insecurity forces them to say things out in the open in front of women as a front to look "cool", at the same time hiding their own insecutities and FEAR of not knowing how to behave and act around women themselves.
If you confront him, it'll make the BOTH of you look CHILDISH in front of women
Just let it be and have the power to just WALK AWAY
Tuesday 21 October 2008
Not the opener that matters, it's the subsequent
Remember, it's not the opener that matters
it's always in the SUBSEQUENT lines and things you say AFTER you've opened her that makes the difference.
Next time you see her glancing your way... SMILE.
If she smiles back, walk up to her and ask
"Hi, beenseeing you around you quite a bit, let me guess, Law?"
The point is for you to DO SOMETHING.
If you're feeling shy to go talk to her just yet, your smile alone will be just as good.
Just as long as you keep smilling whenever you bump into her and she smiles back, you'll become FAMILIAR with each other
You're no more a stranger and after a while, when you actually DO say "hi" to her, it won't come off as if you're trying to hit on her because it's now a FRIENDLY gesture between two people.
it's always in the SUBSEQUENT lines and things you say AFTER you've opened her that makes the difference.
Next time you see her glancing your way... SMILE.
If she smiles back, walk up to her and ask
"Hi, beenseeing you around you quite a bit, let me guess, Law?"
The point is for you to DO SOMETHING.
If you're feeling shy to go talk to her just yet, your smile alone will be just as good.
Just as long as you keep smilling whenever you bump into her and she smiles back, you'll become FAMILIAR with each other
You're no more a stranger and after a while, when you actually DO say "hi" to her, it won't come off as if you're trying to hit on her because it's now a FRIENDLY gesture between two people.
Fufill the Discontentment
Discontentment! We all feel it, at one point or another.
Living a mundane, boring, predictable life is what most people hate, and they're constantly looking for ways to get out of it.
Women want excitement in their lives.
You give them what they want.
Ask her, "What will you be doing this weekend? What? Working? Staying at home??"
Insinuate feelings of inadequacy and this will give you a good opportunity to come in between and fill the void - to give her JOY =)
Offer her a way out of her mundane routine
"Let's give that a break for this week. I'll pick you up from your place and we'll go out of town to climb some rocks =)"
(It could anything you know she's has passion in)
Engage her fantasies, her imagination her yearnings and desires.
Try to position yourself in a way that you represent change, differences and excitement.
Make her feel that her life can be so much more than it is now.
The point is, you can concentrate on her friends or her surroundings - the externals of her life attract a woman you want.
Open up your horizons, open up your mind.
Stir her sense of need and discontent and you'll soon have her "buy" whatever it is you are "selling".
But whatever the case is, do not take this step too far because if you do so, she may feel "unworthy" and "alienated."
And instead of feeling attraction for you, she may distance herself from you thinking she is "unworthy" of your attention.
Living a mundane, boring, predictable life is what most people hate, and they're constantly looking for ways to get out of it.
Women want excitement in their lives.
You give them what they want.
Ask her, "What will you be doing this weekend? What? Working? Staying at home??"
Insinuate feelings of inadequacy and this will give you a good opportunity to come in between and fill the void - to give her JOY =)
Offer her a way out of her mundane routine
"Let's give that a break for this week. I'll pick you up from your place and we'll go out of town to climb some rocks =)"
(It could anything you know she's has passion in)
Engage her fantasies, her imagination her yearnings and desires.
Try to position yourself in a way that you represent change, differences and excitement.
Make her feel that her life can be so much more than it is now.
The point is, you can concentrate on her friends or her surroundings - the externals of her life attract a woman you want.
Open up your horizons, open up your mind.
Stir her sense of need and discontent and you'll soon have her "buy" whatever it is you are "selling".
But whatever the case is, do not take this step too far because if you do so, she may feel "unworthy" and "alienated."
And instead of feeling attraction for you, she may distance herself from you thinking she is "unworthy" of your attention.
Sunday 27 July 2008
Using Insecurities To Touch A Woman
We ALL have weaknesses, vulnerabilities and insecurities. And most of the time, we try very hard to hide them but they don't realize how vulnerabilities can be used to ATTRACT women
as well! Revealing your insecurities is one of the BEST things you can do to stand out from other guys.
What's the big deal anyway? EVERY guy has them. Most men try to cover them up... but the more they try, the MORE insecure they appear to be. And women HATE this. It's like when a woman wears way too much makeup -- it's obvious she's trying to cover up something BAD.
Its not asking you to keep whining, complaining and talking about how your world fell apart when your dog diedor how "unfairly" you were treated by people around you all the time. That's just being NEGATIVE.
What I am saying however is to show her an occasional GLIMPSE into the frail and soft side of your character. This little "peek" into your softer side will draw her into your area of weakness and this will in turn HUMANIZE her view of you, lower her suspicion and EASE up her "guard" against you - paving a way for DEEPER attachment.
Normally strong and in control, at times you must know when to let go and give into your weaknesses and let her SEE it.
There is an old saying that if you want to get someone on your side, you must first get them to TRUST you or at least feel "superior" to you. People are bound to trust ANYTHING over which they believe they have CONTROL.
Example: Let's just say you are naturally a SHY guy - at certain times, give your "shyness" a little weight and lay on a little thick. BLOW it up a little if you have to. When you look at her, try slightly lowering your head and give a shy glance upward to her. Watch her reaction.
Peopl are always saying that women like men who are strong and confident. But that's not the WHOLE story. women find themselves drawn to men who know when to show their vulnerable and weak sides... AT THE RIGHT TIME.
This usually happens when you're both sharing stories about yourselves. It happens VERY INTIMATELY. When you know how to 'time' your moves correctly, your so-called "weakness" of being shy will draw her in and give you a certain "seductive" charm she'll find strikingly ALLURING.
Here's another fact: A woman for example, is usually attracted to a man's strength and confidence but too much of these mentioned qualities can cause FEAR and DISLIKE. Or worse still when the male is unfeeling and aloof.
When a female senses this in a guy, she may start feeling DOUBTFUL about his motives. If you want to be "smooth" and as NATURAL as you can bewith women, you have to learn how and when to show your emotions - to let SOME out and get her to SEE and FEEL your soft side.
The key is to indulge in your soft side while maintaining your masculinity at the same time but you'd want to keep things in MODERATION. A glimpse into your shy self for instance is enough as too much of it makes you look like a PATHETIC, sad freak.
as well! Revealing your insecurities is one of the BEST things you can do to stand out from other guys.
What's the big deal anyway? EVERY guy has them. Most men try to cover them up... but the more they try, the MORE insecure they appear to be. And women HATE this. It's like when a woman wears way too much makeup -- it's obvious she's trying to cover up something BAD.
Its not asking you to keep whining, complaining and talking about how your world fell apart when your dog diedor how "unfairly" you were treated by people around you all the time. That's just being NEGATIVE.
What I am saying however is to show her an occasional GLIMPSE into the frail and soft side of your character. This little "peek" into your softer side will draw her into your area of weakness and this will in turn HUMANIZE her view of you, lower her suspicion and EASE up her "guard" against you - paving a way for DEEPER attachment.
Normally strong and in control, at times you must know when to let go and give into your weaknesses and let her SEE it.
There is an old saying that if you want to get someone on your side, you must first get them to TRUST you or at least feel "superior" to you. People are bound to trust ANYTHING over which they believe they have CONTROL.
Example: Let's just say you are naturally a SHY guy - at certain times, give your "shyness" a little weight and lay on a little thick. BLOW it up a little if you have to. When you look at her, try slightly lowering your head and give a shy glance upward to her. Watch her reaction.
Peopl are always saying that women like men who are strong and confident. But that's not the WHOLE story. women find themselves drawn to men who know when to show their vulnerable and weak sides... AT THE RIGHT TIME.
This usually happens when you're both sharing stories about yourselves. It happens VERY INTIMATELY. When you know how to 'time' your moves correctly, your so-called "weakness" of being shy will draw her in and give you a certain "seductive" charm she'll find strikingly ALLURING.
Here's another fact: A woman for example, is usually attracted to a man's strength and confidence but too much of these mentioned qualities can cause FEAR and DISLIKE. Or worse still when the male is unfeeling and aloof.
When a female senses this in a guy, she may start feeling DOUBTFUL about his motives. If you want to be "smooth" and as NATURAL as you can bewith women, you have to learn how and when to show your emotions - to let SOME out and get her to SEE and FEEL your soft side.
The key is to indulge in your soft side while maintaining your masculinity at the same time but you'd want to keep things in MODERATION. A glimpse into your shy self for instance is enough as too much of it makes you look like a PATHETIC, sad freak.
Friday 18 July 2008
Create those spark of attraction
Let's say that you have two stones... How would you create a 'spark' between two stones? Do you take both stones and rub them together gently, as if they're sharing a kiss? or You take one stone and you strike the other one with it, hard! That's what creates a 'spark', yes?
If you want to create an attraction in the woman, for you, one of you will have to strike that stone. In this case, it will have to be YOU. The woman has no incentive to do so.
So, it's up to YOU to create those sparks of attraction. If she has already placed you in 'the zone', the 'friendzone', the ONLY way for you to get out of it is to use disconnectors to 'cut off' all previous connections. It's an entirely SEPERATE topic alltogether.
To draw women in, you have to be unique, entertaining, arrogant and offensive even. Make fun of her a little. It's not thing wrong women are used to getting compliments, especially 'suck up' wussy-like compliments on their beauty and looks. So, DON'T do that.
If you have to give a compliment, turn it into a jab. Poke fun at her with it.
Example... "I like your eyes." And then add... "Is that your REALeye color?"
"I like your hair" or "You have great hair." Then, add... "Is it REAL?"
She'll probably look at you and think, or say... "I can't believe you just said that!!" She may either laugh at it or act offended. Either way, don't worry about it. And don't apologize and don't say "I'm kidding." Just smile or laugh, regardless of how she reacts.
You're striking the stones together. Remember No "nice" rubbing allowed! You want to heat things up, not get a lukewarm reaction.
Remember, the approach is used just to START the conversation. Nothing else. After that, you can immediately switch to a story or routine that you've planned ahead of time.
If you're out approaching women in clubs and you've started with a quick story or scenario like..."Hey, did you see that girl being thrown out by the bouncer?"
You can now switch to something else. Shift the conversation to something/somewhere else. You can even turn to the girl you're supposed to be ignoring and say...
"You, especially, look like a lightweight. You don't seem like you can handle more than one glass, huh?"Her: Why!!?"Oh, I don't know, you seem too petite and proper" If she says, "That's right. I'm not a drunkard like you/them," you can reply with... "It's okay. I won't hold it against you. You're forgiven. =)
It's just takes practice to get the flow right. By not complimenting her or paying too much attention, you're putting everyone at ease, including her friends who won't have to protect their friend from another pervert. You're more of a challenge, and she will have to work a little to get you to start liking her.
It demonstrates you're AT EASE around hot women; an added DHV (demonstration of higher value). It's essentially all about having a STRUCTURED, PROVEN system of doing things that makes the difference between a LAYor a REJECTION.
If you want to create an attraction in the woman, for you, one of you will have to strike that stone. In this case, it will have to be YOU. The woman has no incentive to do so.
So, it's up to YOU to create those sparks of attraction. If she has already placed you in 'the zone', the 'friendzone', the ONLY way for you to get out of it is to use disconnectors to 'cut off' all previous connections. It's an entirely SEPERATE topic alltogether.
To draw women in, you have to be unique, entertaining, arrogant and offensive even. Make fun of her a little. It's not thing wrong women are used to getting compliments, especially 'suck up' wussy-like compliments on their beauty and looks. So, DON'T do that.
If you have to give a compliment, turn it into a jab. Poke fun at her with it.
Example... "I like your eyes." And then add... "Is that your REALeye color?"
"I like your hair" or "You have great hair." Then, add... "Is it REAL?"
She'll probably look at you and think, or say... "I can't believe you just said that!!" She may either laugh at it or act offended. Either way, don't worry about it. And don't apologize and don't say "I'm kidding." Just smile or laugh, regardless of how she reacts.
You're striking the stones together. Remember No "nice" rubbing allowed! You want to heat things up, not get a lukewarm reaction.
Remember, the approach is used just to START the conversation. Nothing else. After that, you can immediately switch to a story or routine that you've planned ahead of time.
If you're out approaching women in clubs and you've started with a quick story or scenario like..."Hey, did you see that girl being thrown out by the bouncer?"
You can now switch to something else. Shift the conversation to something/somewhere else. You can even turn to the girl you're supposed to be ignoring and say...
"You, especially, look like a lightweight. You don't seem like you can handle more than one glass, huh?"Her: Why!!?"Oh, I don't know, you seem too petite and proper" If she says, "That's right. I'm not a drunkard like you/them," you can reply with... "It's okay. I won't hold it against you. You're forgiven. =)
It's just takes practice to get the flow right. By not complimenting her or paying too much attention, you're putting everyone at ease, including her friends who won't have to protect their friend from another pervert. You're more of a challenge, and she will have to work a little to get you to start liking her.
It demonstrates you're AT EASE around hot women; an added DHV (demonstration of higher value). It's essentially all about having a STRUCTURED, PROVEN system of doing things that makes the difference between a LAYor a REJECTION.
I could have as many friends as I wanted
It feels good. A sudden increase in your social network. Being IN DEMAND for once instead of IGNORED. No matter what we may think about popularity, and how we turn our noses at it, it sure does feel GOOD.
The reality was that nothing changed about ME, just my thoughts. I just acted on a BELIEF. It was my own insecurities and beliefs about my ACTING.
I could have as many friends as I wanted, I started to respond to this sudden social wealth in my life by wanting to be a part of it all.
This is what an ALPHA MAN is - socially desired. He knows that it's not the anti-social jerk that gets to have all the fun (and the women) in life, but the guy who's calm and confident in his own skin, and can still be liked by others.
The reality was that nothing changed about ME, just my thoughts. I just acted on a BELIEF. It was my own insecurities and beliefs about my ACTING.
I could have as many friends as I wanted, I started to respond to this sudden social wealth in my life by wanting to be a part of it all.
This is what an ALPHA MAN is - socially desired. He knows that it's not the anti-social jerk that gets to have all the fun (and the women) in life, but the guy who's calm and confident in his own skin, and can still be liked by others.
Sunday 25 May 2008
How to ask a woman out
"Can I take you out sometimes?"
"Can I buy you a dinner sometimes?"
These lines are terrible, and while they will not necessarily cause rejection and a bad date.
This is simply a wrong way to ask a woman out because it suggests to her that you are not good enough for her , but the only reason she should hang out with you is because you are going to buy something to her.
This is the exact opposite of what you should be doing.
Being interesting, different and funny is what will make you truly attractive and not the toys, the food and other things that you can buy to a woman.
Instead of using the above lines, the next time ask a woman out, say something like:
"Hey, I know this great cafe near this beautiful park - lets go there this Monday evening, pick up something warm to drink and take a walk together."
"Can I buy you a dinner sometimes?"
These lines are terrible, and while they will not necessarily cause rejection and a bad date.
This is simply a wrong way to ask a woman out because it suggests to her that you are not good enough for her , but the only reason she should hang out with you is because you are going to buy something to her.
This is the exact opposite of what you should be doing.
Being interesting, different and funny is what will make you truly attractive and not the toys, the food and other things that you can buy to a woman.
Instead of using the above lines, the next time ask a woman out, say something like:
"Hey, I know this great cafe near this beautiful park - lets go there this Monday evening, pick up something warm to drink and take a walk together."
To be interesting
To be attractive, you must come across as interesting. "Interesting" means unusual / non-typical.
If all you do during your conversation with a woman is nod an agree with everything she says without challenging her and / or teasing her periodically, you are likely to come across as a very boring company.
Playing it safe and NOT showing your true self will likely waste your time and hers because eventually you will show your true colors and so will she, so why not find out if you really like each other early on?
Saying a joke or teasing a woman is one of the most effective and reliable ways to assess her personality.
Is she uptight or easy going? Is she fun or will he be a pain in the ass? That's what you want to find out as early as possible.
When a woman says: "You are such a sweet guy, you must be getting lots of women"
Don't say "Oh, no. I am waiting for that special woman,"
Instead use it as an opportunity to be funny and attractive: "Yeah, it's kind of hard and confusing. You should register online to join the group of those women so I don't forget about you. Ah.... what's your name again?"
If all you do during your conversation with a woman is nod an agree with everything she says without challenging her and / or teasing her periodically, you are likely to come across as a very boring company.
Playing it safe and NOT showing your true self will likely waste your time and hers because eventually you will show your true colors and so will she, so why not find out if you really like each other early on?
Saying a joke or teasing a woman is one of the most effective and reliable ways to assess her personality.
Is she uptight or easy going? Is she fun or will he be a pain in the ass? That's what you want to find out as early as possible.
When a woman says: "You are such a sweet guy, you must be getting lots of women"
Don't say "Oh, no. I am waiting for that special woman,"
Instead use it as an opportunity to be funny and attractive: "Yeah, it's kind of hard and confusing. You should register online to join the group of those women so I don't forget about you. Ah.... what's your name again?"
Love and Space
It is mistake that people thought that if you love someone, you should show it by spending as much time with each other as possible.
This notion of love is a result of insecurity and lack of self-identity ,avoid submitting to such an immature notion
The reality is that EVERYONE needs space whether they know it or not. Everyone needs that time alone to "reset" and reorganize themselves
There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with it; in fact it's perfectly natural.
Too many people take the "I need time alone" personally as a statement that reflects lack of care and love.
Make sure you don't commit that mistake. Make sure you treat your own desire for space and that of your partner with full understanding and respect.
After all, just like with your favourite food, you are much better off missing the company of your partner and wanting to have it again, rather than being fully "satiated" with it.
This notion of love is a result of insecurity and lack of self-identity ,avoid submitting to such an immature notion
The reality is that EVERYONE needs space whether they know it or not. Everyone needs that time alone to "reset" and reorganize themselves
There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with it; in fact it's perfectly natural.
Too many people take the "I need time alone" personally as a statement that reflects lack of care and love.
Make sure you don't commit that mistake. Make sure you treat your own desire for space and that of your partner with full understanding and respect.
After all, just like with your favourite food, you are much better off missing the company of your partner and wanting to have it again, rather than being fully "satiated" with it.
Thursday 24 April 2008
Phone number games
First, a note on scoring her digits: don't ask permission. Make swapping numbers seem like a completely natural step. After around ten minutes of conversation, take your phone out of your pocket and tell her,
"Let's exchange numbers, we should continue this conversation sometime."
Don't wait for a "yes" or "no." Just start programming her name in. Even better, mention there are some parties/events coming up that you want to let her know about. This makes you sound socially savvy and plugged in, a characteristic of Alpha Men.
"Let's swap numbers, there are some cool parties coming up that I want to let you know about."
If you've laid the proper groundwork, she's going to go with your flow. She'll give you her number, and you'll give her yours.
As the man, you'll be the one to make the first phone call--but swapping numbers, rather than just getting hers, makes it feel like a fair exchange.
Now, as you program her number in, say "I'll have some free time on _____ (name the day of the week two days from now). What's a good time to ring you?"
This eliminates any worries about disturbing her while she's in the middle of something, or calling too soon.
(Find out when she's available to talk two days from now, and call her then.)
NEVER ask permission for a girl's number.
You are comforting her with the idea that swapping numbers is a natural, harmless thing to do at this point in the conversation.
Some tactics to keep in mind:
1. No matter who answers the phone, announce who you are: "Hi, this is Mike. Is Sarah there?" This demonstrates confidence, and if a housemate or family member answers, you'll establish rapport with them. This can come in handy later if you meet them.
2. If they tell you she's not home, just ask for her to call you back. Don't go into any sort of explanation or mention that you want to make plans with her. It will only make her feel embarrassed when they relate the message to her.
3. Never call to chit-chat. Only call to plan a date with her, and have the game plan already in mind. Keep the phone call under five minutes. You'll have plenty to talk about when you meet again in person. Once the date has been set, tell her you're looking forward to seeing her and politely end the conversation.
4. Talk slowly and sound cheerful and relaxed. Your tone is very important. If you sound anxious and talk too fast, you're going to come off as desperate and over-eager.
5. If she doesn't answer, don't leave a message. In most cases she'll screen the message and "forget" to call back. Make the call in the afternoon, and if she doesn't pick up, call again in the evening. (If you don't get her on the line in your first two attempts, try again two days later. Still no answer? Forget her and move on, unless you've also got her email.)
6. Don't send her a text message instead of calling her. This is an obvious impersonal wuss move, and the flirty energy and tone of your voice is importantfor making her feel comfortable saying "yes" to the date.
7. So what about email? In this day and age, it does make a lot of sense to get her email as well as her phone number. Women are far more likely to respond to an email than a voicemail message.
"Let's exchange numbers, we should continue this conversation sometime."
Don't wait for a "yes" or "no." Just start programming her name in. Even better, mention there are some parties/events coming up that you want to let her know about. This makes you sound socially savvy and plugged in, a characteristic of Alpha Men.
"Let's swap numbers, there are some cool parties coming up that I want to let you know about."
If you've laid the proper groundwork, she's going to go with your flow. She'll give you her number, and you'll give her yours.
As the man, you'll be the one to make the first phone call--but swapping numbers, rather than just getting hers, makes it feel like a fair exchange.
Now, as you program her number in, say "I'll have some free time on _____ (name the day of the week two days from now). What's a good time to ring you?"
This eliminates any worries about disturbing her while she's in the middle of something, or calling too soon.
(Find out when she's available to talk two days from now, and call her then.)
NEVER ask permission for a girl's number.
You are comforting her with the idea that swapping numbers is a natural, harmless thing to do at this point in the conversation.
Some tactics to keep in mind:
1. No matter who answers the phone, announce who you are: "Hi, this is Mike. Is Sarah there?" This demonstrates confidence, and if a housemate or family member answers, you'll establish rapport with them. This can come in handy later if you meet them.
2. If they tell you she's not home, just ask for her to call you back. Don't go into any sort of explanation or mention that you want to make plans with her. It will only make her feel embarrassed when they relate the message to her.
3. Never call to chit-chat. Only call to plan a date with her, and have the game plan already in mind. Keep the phone call under five minutes. You'll have plenty to talk about when you meet again in person. Once the date has been set, tell her you're looking forward to seeing her and politely end the conversation.
4. Talk slowly and sound cheerful and relaxed. Your tone is very important. If you sound anxious and talk too fast, you're going to come off as desperate and over-eager.
5. If she doesn't answer, don't leave a message. In most cases she'll screen the message and "forget" to call back. Make the call in the afternoon, and if she doesn't pick up, call again in the evening. (If you don't get her on the line in your first two attempts, try again two days later. Still no answer? Forget her and move on, unless you've also got her email.)
6. Don't send her a text message instead of calling her. This is an obvious impersonal wuss move, and the flirty energy and tone of your voice is importantfor making her feel comfortable saying "yes" to the date.
7. So what about email? In this day and age, it does make a lot of sense to get her email as well as her phone number. Women are far more likely to respond to an email than a voicemail message.
laid back on dates, see how things goes
There's a common joke amongst the players within our community that says that when a first guy meets a girl he likes, he'll instantly feel as if he's meta potential wife.
But when a girl comes across a guy she likes, she'll let cupid work its magic and see how things goes... That couldn't be more true.
Look around you. Haven't you noticed that when a guy first meets a girl he likes, he'll instantly think that she's 'the one'. He'll think that he's in love, that she has the potential to be the 'love of his life' even though he doesn'tknow ANYTHING about her at all??
Sounds crazy I know, but as irrational as it may sound,I've done it before myself, and I can pretty much vouch that you and practically 98% of guys has felt the same way too lol!
Why? Well, that's just how we men are wired to be but now that you're aware of it, it's absolutely crucial for you to STOP yourself from repeating the same mistake ever again!
Think about it. When you think you've met the 'love of your life',how will it make you feel? Nervous, anxious, over-excited?
Won't you do everything in your power to NOT to 'screw up'your chances with her, won't you become more CONCIOUS of what you'll be saying, acting and doing in front of her? Of course you would.
But can you see how much unnecessary pressure & tensionyou're putting yourself in then?
And the paradox to it all as that the more you try not to 'screw up' your chances, the more you'll end up screwing it worst than ever before!
Being 'safe', not taking chances and risks with women is BORING to women. Why?
Because that's exactly the kind of men that are hitting on them everyday!
Haven't you noticed how when a man first meets a woman he likes, he'll usually act all nervous, fidgity and overly anxious to impress his date?
He'll be thinking "Gosh you're beautiful, I'm soo into you,I just know you'll be a wonderful girlfriend. I'll do anything for you." Or even... "You're soo hot, I sooo wanna bang you"
On the other hand, you will be thinking "You're interestingto me. I'd like to get to know you better and we'll see how things goes." more laid back on dates.
So how's a guy supposed to act around women then?
Well, for starters, STOP THINKING THAT EVERY WOMAN YOU MEET MIGHT VERY WELL BE THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE... duh!!
Looking for something, anything;her dress sense, her accesories, her handbag, her heels,her actions; whatever it is to bust on her (There's ALWAYSsomething you can focus on) and turn the tables implying how SHE'S the one who's screwing up her chances with me.
If she's local and I'm from out of town, and she wasn'tsure of her directions, I'll just shake my head and go"this relationship just isn't going to work out"
If she fumbles as she's pouring herself coffee I'll shake my head and go "this relationship just isn't going to work out"
Using the "this relationship just isn't going to work out" has never failed in doing 'the job'
As we're talking, when she accidently mispronounces, 'eats'or fumbles her sentences (this happens to all of us sometimes), I'll just shake my head again and just breath a playful sigh... "Are you ALWAYS like this?"
Can you see the point?
Doing the exact OPPOSITE of what most guys do. I'm saying "I'm here to get to know you but I'm also here to have fun. Still, I could care less what you think of me but I'm comfortable & confident enough to make fun of you so we'll see where this goes "
But when a girl comes across a guy she likes, she'll let cupid work its magic and see how things goes... That couldn't be more true.
Look around you. Haven't you noticed that when a guy first meets a girl he likes, he'll instantly think that she's 'the one'. He'll think that he's in love, that she has the potential to be the 'love of his life' even though he doesn'tknow ANYTHING about her at all??
Sounds crazy I know, but as irrational as it may sound,I've done it before myself, and I can pretty much vouch that you and practically 98% of guys has felt the same way too lol!
Why? Well, that's just how we men are wired to be but now that you're aware of it, it's absolutely crucial for you to STOP yourself from repeating the same mistake ever again!
Think about it. When you think you've met the 'love of your life',how will it make you feel? Nervous, anxious, over-excited?
Won't you do everything in your power to NOT to 'screw up'your chances with her, won't you become more CONCIOUS of what you'll be saying, acting and doing in front of her? Of course you would.
But can you see how much unnecessary pressure & tensionyou're putting yourself in then?
And the paradox to it all as that the more you try not to 'screw up' your chances, the more you'll end up screwing it worst than ever before!
Being 'safe', not taking chances and risks with women is BORING to women. Why?
Because that's exactly the kind of men that are hitting on them everyday!
Haven't you noticed how when a man first meets a woman he likes, he'll usually act all nervous, fidgity and overly anxious to impress his date?
He'll be thinking "Gosh you're beautiful, I'm soo into you,I just know you'll be a wonderful girlfriend. I'll do anything for you." Or even... "You're soo hot, I sooo wanna bang you"
On the other hand, you will be thinking "You're interestingto me. I'd like to get to know you better and we'll see how things goes." more laid back on dates.
So how's a guy supposed to act around women then?
Well, for starters, STOP THINKING THAT EVERY WOMAN YOU MEET MIGHT VERY WELL BE THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE... duh!!
Looking for something, anything;her dress sense, her accesories, her handbag, her heels,her actions; whatever it is to bust on her (There's ALWAYSsomething you can focus on) and turn the tables implying how SHE'S the one who's screwing up her chances with me.
If she's local and I'm from out of town, and she wasn'tsure of her directions, I'll just shake my head and go"this relationship just isn't going to work out"
If she fumbles as she's pouring herself coffee I'll shake my head and go "this relationship just isn't going to work out"
Using the "this relationship just isn't going to work out" has never failed in doing 'the job'
As we're talking, when she accidently mispronounces, 'eats'or fumbles her sentences (this happens to all of us sometimes), I'll just shake my head again and just breath a playful sigh... "Are you ALWAYS like this?"
Can you see the point?
Doing the exact OPPOSITE of what most guys do. I'm saying "I'm here to get to know you but I'm also here to have fun. Still, I could care less what you think of me but I'm comfortable & confident enough to make fun of you so we'll see where this goes "
Have a good conversation with women
This is the number one MISTAKE guys make: they think that there is something 'magical' that needs to happen to let a woman know that you are interested in her.
What I like to do is just carry on a CONVERSATION.
So you've gone and started talking to a woman - you've opened her up with something - and you start having a conversation just like you would normally with anybody.
You start talking and find BONDING moments, you look for the key portal WORDS that we've talked about - you look for an EMOTIONAL talking point in her - something that you can use to take the conversation further.
For example, I was walking down the street tonight, and I saw the yellow sweatshirt girl again, who I'd opened up earlier by talking to her about the price tag.
So I said to her, "hey, you've got your sweatshirt on again!" and she said, "God, I was cold."
I asked her why she was so cold, and she said that she was just here for the weekend. So I said, "where are you from?" -She said, "I'm from Vancouver."
"Vancouver! I love Vancouver!" I said, "I lived in Seattle for a few years, and Vancouver is one of my favorite cities," and then we were able to start talking about Vancouver, and where she was from, and so forth.
At that point, she didn't move - she knew I was interested in her.
How did she know I was interested? I was asking her questions.
I wasn't asking her boring, small-talk questions about the weather, I was asking her PERSONAL QUESTIONS about things that she had said, and I was paraphrasing her when I went back and talked to her - meaning, when a woman says, "I'm from Vancouver," I say, "Wow, I loveVancouver, how long have you been living in Vancouver?"
Paraphrasing is using HER terminology.
If she says, "I'm just here for the weekend," then I say, "what made you come down to LA for the weekend?" and she tells you, "I came here because there was an art show."
You respond, "what type of art do you like?" or "what type of art show did you come for?"
Then she'll start talking to you, and talking about things, and she will know that you're interested in her.
In general, women know that when you start asking her a lot of questions about personal things, you are interested.
She also knows you are interested based on your body language towards her - are you excited?
Every time you ask her another question, elevate your voicetone a bit - say, "Oh that's so cool - I always wanted to know about that artist, tell me a little bit more about Dali," or "tell me a little bit more about Picasso, I've never really explored his art."
"Tell me a little bit more" - and you're excited about what she's talking about. This creates ATTRACTION in her because she all of a sudden starts thinking that "this guy likes me!" She thinks, "this guy is interested in me, he wants to learn more about me."
All of a sudden, you are listening and having energy and excitement about what she's saying, and the next thing you know, you're flirting with her - that's what flirting is.
And then you can start teasing her a little bit, you can tease her about, say, living in the rain in Vancouver all the time - whatever bit of information you find out about her that you can use to take the conversation further.
Your interest in her will also come across in your body language, in your delivery, in your tonality - maybe even slowing down - showing that romantic, sexual intent.
You can be talking about anything really - and if you slow it down and hold intense eye contact, she will then know that you have a clear interest in her - as more than just friends.
I was in this store today, and saw this underwear that said, "Clitosaurus Rex." Some women were walking by, and while most guys would play it safe and not say anything, I picked them up and said, "Clitosaurus Rex - this is so funny!"
Another pair said, "Love My Pussy." I said to the women, "Love my pussy? I've got to get these for the girl I'm dating right now, this is great!"
And by just saying these things that were on the underwear, other people started coming over - other women - and all of a sudden, after just playing with these underwear and t-shirts, I'm walking out of the store and one of the women hit on me!
This happened because I was being playful, because I'm NOT AFRAID to be playful. You can show that you are NOT AFRAID of showing your sexual side - a lot of guys are afraid of this, they think, "oh I can't say that, I'm going to get slapped!"
But it's not true! Showing your sexual side is VERY powerful. Many guys don't do it, so girls really like seeing that. They know that you're a man who is not afraid of being a man.
And that's really what they want! In the REAL WORLD, having unlimited amount of OPTIONS in your pick of women, unfortunately is a luxury NOT many guys have. The reason: They usually think they know it all but in reality, they just DON'T... and they wind up going through life settling for second best types of women or even NONE at all.
What I like to do is just carry on a CONVERSATION.
So you've gone and started talking to a woman - you've opened her up with something - and you start having a conversation just like you would normally with anybody.
You start talking and find BONDING moments, you look for the key portal WORDS that we've talked about - you look for an EMOTIONAL talking point in her - something that you can use to take the conversation further.
For example, I was walking down the street tonight, and I saw the yellow sweatshirt girl again, who I'd opened up earlier by talking to her about the price tag.
So I said to her, "hey, you've got your sweatshirt on again!" and she said, "God, I was cold."
I asked her why she was so cold, and she said that she was just here for the weekend. So I said, "where are you from?" -She said, "I'm from Vancouver."
"Vancouver! I love Vancouver!" I said, "I lived in Seattle for a few years, and Vancouver is one of my favorite cities," and then we were able to start talking about Vancouver, and where she was from, and so forth.
At that point, she didn't move - she knew I was interested in her.
How did she know I was interested? I was asking her questions.
I wasn't asking her boring, small-talk questions about the weather, I was asking her PERSONAL QUESTIONS about things that she had said, and I was paraphrasing her when I went back and talked to her - meaning, when a woman says, "I'm from Vancouver," I say, "Wow, I loveVancouver, how long have you been living in Vancouver?"
Paraphrasing is using HER terminology.
If she says, "I'm just here for the weekend," then I say, "what made you come down to LA for the weekend?" and she tells you, "I came here because there was an art show."
You respond, "what type of art do you like?" or "what type of art show did you come for?"
Then she'll start talking to you, and talking about things, and she will know that you're interested in her.
In general, women know that when you start asking her a lot of questions about personal things, you are interested.
She also knows you are interested based on your body language towards her - are you excited?
Every time you ask her another question, elevate your voicetone a bit - say, "Oh that's so cool - I always wanted to know about that artist, tell me a little bit more about Dali," or "tell me a little bit more about Picasso, I've never really explored his art."
"Tell me a little bit more" - and you're excited about what she's talking about. This creates ATTRACTION in her because she all of a sudden starts thinking that "this guy likes me!" She thinks, "this guy is interested in me, he wants to learn more about me."
All of a sudden, you are listening and having energy and excitement about what she's saying, and the next thing you know, you're flirting with her - that's what flirting is.
And then you can start teasing her a little bit, you can tease her about, say, living in the rain in Vancouver all the time - whatever bit of information you find out about her that you can use to take the conversation further.
Your interest in her will also come across in your body language, in your delivery, in your tonality - maybe even slowing down - showing that romantic, sexual intent.
You can be talking about anything really - and if you slow it down and hold intense eye contact, she will then know that you have a clear interest in her - as more than just friends.
I was in this store today, and saw this underwear that said, "Clitosaurus Rex." Some women were walking by, and while most guys would play it safe and not say anything, I picked them up and said, "Clitosaurus Rex - this is so funny!"
Another pair said, "Love My Pussy." I said to the women, "Love my pussy? I've got to get these for the girl I'm dating right now, this is great!"
And by just saying these things that were on the underwear, other people started coming over - other women - and all of a sudden, after just playing with these underwear and t-shirts, I'm walking out of the store and one of the women hit on me!
This happened because I was being playful, because I'm NOT AFRAID to be playful. You can show that you are NOT AFRAID of showing your sexual side - a lot of guys are afraid of this, they think, "oh I can't say that, I'm going to get slapped!"
But it's not true! Showing your sexual side is VERY powerful. Many guys don't do it, so girls really like seeing that. They know that you're a man who is not afraid of being a man.
And that's really what they want! In the REAL WORLD, having unlimited amount of OPTIONS in your pick of women, unfortunately is a luxury NOT many guys have. The reason: They usually think they know it all but in reality, they just DON'T... and they wind up going through life settling for second best types of women or even NONE at all.
Friday 4 April 2008
Give less get more with women
Get over feeling bad about SHOWING desire and romantic interest to women.
Get a NEW Definition of respect for women that allows to show sexual interest in women. Learn to let go of being controlling and have some CURIOSITY with women
Learn and use CONVERSATIONAL structures that allow for spontaneity and CURIOSITY.
Learn and use simple FLIRTING skills and opening moves
PRACTICE with a structure, one step at at time
Celebrate their victories, one step at a time
Play the numbers game
Learn realistic, quality tools for finding niches and interacting romantically with women at those niches
Get a NEW Definition of respect for women that allows to show sexual interest in women. Learn to let go of being controlling and have some CURIOSITY with women
Learn and use CONVERSATIONAL structures that allow for spontaneity and CURIOSITY.
Learn and use simple FLIRTING skills and opening moves
PRACTICE with a structure, one step at at time
Celebrate their victories, one step at a time
Play the numbers game
Learn realistic, quality tools for finding niches and interacting romantically with women at those niches
Thursday 27 March 2008
超強把妹術
一、應該給MM留下什么樣的第一印象（時間：剛開始接觸MM）
1、最關鍵的是要讓MM看到你的上進心。
男人的最大魅力在於事業有成，年輕人工作時間不長談不上“有成”，這時候你就要讓MM覺得你是個有上進心的人。 別的可以胡說八道，但這個問題不能含糊，你一定要告訴MM，你對未來充滿信心，你不滿足於現狀，並且你已經有了長遠的計劃，總之你的未來不是夢。
2、要顯得有信心、有責任心 不要像個小孩子，女孩子都很懶希望能找個依靠，你要拿出自己的信心和責任心來。 有一個錯的選擇總比沒有選擇要好的多。
3、不要太正經，但也不要太隨便 該正經的地方就正經，該調侃的的時候就調侃。 女孩子都喜歡有點玩世不恭的男人，所以別顯得對什么都特別在意，那樣太呆板。
4、顯得成熟一點 遇事鎮定、從容不迫的男人對MM有致命的吸引力。
二、如何與MM展開進一步接觸（時間：開始追的階段）
1、這個階段最關鍵的是不能著急，不要把事情弄的那么清楚，讓人家一眼就能看出你在 追人家。 想一想，一般人都不會一眼就看上你，但也不會看一眼就討厭你，都是老百姓家的孩子（除非你長得象周潤發劉德華或者凱文科斯特納），好感是需要隨著瞭解的不斷增加而實現的，所以問題的關鍵是你要得的進一步發展的機會。 站在女孩子的角度替人家想一想：你這么直接了當的沖過來要搞物件，女孩子肯定有心理壓力。這要是接觸一陣後發現不喜歡你，那不就成了耍你了么？所以如果你開始就擺出志在必得的姿勢出來，基本上會被立刻悶回去。
2、要低姿態起步 首先要把關係定位成“朋友”，本來是“普通朋友”，你希望成為“好朋友”，總之千萬不要說“追你”。 你想想，你如果根本不提“追”，那么女孩子也就更沒機會“拒絕”你——你沒追她怎么拒絕你？！這樣可以減輕女孩子的心理壓力，使你們能順利的交往下去。不要幻想認識三天就答應嫁給你，要充分的交往、瞭解，感情不是憑空生的。
3、交往的過程中不要太急躁 要有張有弛，不要整天纏著人家，誰這樣對你，你也會膩。我有個好朋友對我說，追女孩子的關鍵是八個字—— “忽冷忽熱、欲擒故縱”（這是我同學多少年心血的結晶）。 你整天纏著人家自然不覺得你好，你適當的冷個一兩天，女孩子就會想起你在的好處了。 還有就是不要拿出“非你不娶”的志氣來，太掉價了不好，有時候可以耍點花招。
4、要適當的創造機會 前面說了，不要使事情立刻變成“你在追別人”，而你又需要得到接近女孩子的機會，這時就要看你的創造力了。 你可以搜集情報，想辦法把守株待兔變成一場邂逅；也可以裝做漫不經心的找出最最充足的理由邀請對方和你一起做什么事。 總之這個是最有技術含量的地方，實在不行可以找前輩請教。
5、切忌切忌：隨便送人家禮物是不禮貌的 有些人追女孩子心切，喜歡經常買東西送人家，殊不知追女孩子最忌諱這個。 俗話說“無功不受祿”，你這樣送人家東西就是在施加壓力，人家會覺得欠你的，所以會 想辦法還給你，如果沒辦法還給你就會想辦法不和你交往，免得總是欠你人情。 如果你想顯示自己的誠意，倒不妨請女孩子一起消費，比如說找好的餐廳吃飯，或者找貴 的地方一起玩什么的，女孩子自然能看出你花了很多錢，但錢終究是兩個人一起花了而不是變成東西帶回家。
三、“女朋友”到底是什么？
1、“女朋友”是一種事實，而不是一份承諾 你和女孩子開始交往，從“普通朋友”變成“好朋友”，再到“非常非常好、無話不談的朋友”，某一個陽光燦爛的午後，你“不小心”拉了她的手；“月上柳梢頭”，你突然襲擊吻了她。這時她就已經是你的女朋友了，無論她是否承認，她心理已經認你是他男朋友了。 我知道最高明的，直到上床了都沒問過“你是否願意做我女朋友”，最後還是女孩子急了 ：“你怎么還不求我做你女朋友啊！” 所以說，千萬不要急於把窗戶紙捅破，情況越朦朧對你越有利。
2、“表白”是什么？ 前面說了，表白實際上就是一個形式而已，正確的順序應該是：事實上已經成你女朋友 了，才能向人家表白，水到渠成。 很多人弄不明白這個問題，總以為人家先答應做自己女朋友，然後再如何如何，我只能說非常非常“單純”，也非常非常“愚蠢”。
3、有沒有“迫不得已非表白不可”的時候？ 有，比如說出現第三者，或者你和女孩子關係沒有成熟但兩個人可能分開一段時間。 這時候的表白就是條件不成熟的表白，風險非常大，類似於下圍棋的時候形勢嚴峻，落後的一方迫於無奈放出“勝負手”，贏了就贏了，輸了也只能說“倒楣都是天生的”。
4、“愛”字不要輕易出口 經常看見論壇出現“大膽的表白”，說實話我真的認這是非常不成熟的一種表現。“愛”是一個神聖的字，意味著追求，也意味著承諾，甚至體現出一種責任。 隨便說“愛”的男人是不負責任的。
1、最關鍵的是要讓MM看到你的上進心。
男人的最大魅力在於事業有成，年輕人工作時間不長談不上“有成”，這時候你就要讓MM覺得你是個有上進心的人。 別的可以胡說八道，但這個問題不能含糊，你一定要告訴MM，你對未來充滿信心，你不滿足於現狀，並且你已經有了長遠的計劃，總之你的未來不是夢。
2、要顯得有信心、有責任心 不要像個小孩子，女孩子都很懶希望能找個依靠，你要拿出自己的信心和責任心來。 有一個錯的選擇總比沒有選擇要好的多。
3、不要太正經，但也不要太隨便 該正經的地方就正經，該調侃的的時候就調侃。 女孩子都喜歡有點玩世不恭的男人，所以別顯得對什么都特別在意，那樣太呆板。
4、顯得成熟一點 遇事鎮定、從容不迫的男人對MM有致命的吸引力。
二、如何與MM展開進一步接觸（時間：開始追的階段）
1、這個階段最關鍵的是不能著急，不要把事情弄的那么清楚，讓人家一眼就能看出你在 追人家。 想一想，一般人都不會一眼就看上你，但也不會看一眼就討厭你，都是老百姓家的孩子（除非你長得象周潤發劉德華或者凱文科斯特納），好感是需要隨著瞭解的不斷增加而實現的，所以問題的關鍵是你要得的進一步發展的機會。 站在女孩子的角度替人家想一想：你這么直接了當的沖過來要搞物件，女孩子肯定有心理壓力。這要是接觸一陣後發現不喜歡你，那不就成了耍你了么？所以如果你開始就擺出志在必得的姿勢出來，基本上會被立刻悶回去。
2、要低姿態起步 首先要把關係定位成“朋友”，本來是“普通朋友”，你希望成為“好朋友”，總之千萬不要說“追你”。 你想想，你如果根本不提“追”，那么女孩子也就更沒機會“拒絕”你——你沒追她怎么拒絕你？！這樣可以減輕女孩子的心理壓力，使你們能順利的交往下去。不要幻想認識三天就答應嫁給你，要充分的交往、瞭解，感情不是憑空生的。
3、交往的過程中不要太急躁 要有張有弛，不要整天纏著人家，誰這樣對你，你也會膩。我有個好朋友對我說，追女孩子的關鍵是八個字—— “忽冷忽熱、欲擒故縱”（這是我同學多少年心血的結晶）。 你整天纏著人家自然不覺得你好，你適當的冷個一兩天，女孩子就會想起你在的好處了。 還有就是不要拿出“非你不娶”的志氣來，太掉價了不好，有時候可以耍點花招。
4、要適當的創造機會 前面說了，不要使事情立刻變成“你在追別人”，而你又需要得到接近女孩子的機會，這時就要看你的創造力了。 你可以搜集情報，想辦法把守株待兔變成一場邂逅；也可以裝做漫不經心的找出最最充足的理由邀請對方和你一起做什么事。 總之這個是最有技術含量的地方，實在不行可以找前輩請教。
5、切忌切忌：隨便送人家禮物是不禮貌的 有些人追女孩子心切，喜歡經常買東西送人家，殊不知追女孩子最忌諱這個。 俗話說“無功不受祿”，你這樣送人家東西就是在施加壓力，人家會覺得欠你的，所以會 想辦法還給你，如果沒辦法還給你就會想辦法不和你交往，免得總是欠你人情。 如果你想顯示自己的誠意，倒不妨請女孩子一起消費，比如說找好的餐廳吃飯，或者找貴 的地方一起玩什么的，女孩子自然能看出你花了很多錢，但錢終究是兩個人一起花了而不是變成東西帶回家。
三、“女朋友”到底是什么？
1、“女朋友”是一種事實，而不是一份承諾 你和女孩子開始交往，從“普通朋友”變成“好朋友”，再到“非常非常好、無話不談的朋友”，某一個陽光燦爛的午後，你“不小心”拉了她的手；“月上柳梢頭”，你突然襲擊吻了她。這時她就已經是你的女朋友了，無論她是否承認，她心理已經認你是他男朋友了。 我知道最高明的，直到上床了都沒問過“你是否願意做我女朋友”，最後還是女孩子急了 ：“你怎么還不求我做你女朋友啊！” 所以說，千萬不要急於把窗戶紙捅破，情況越朦朧對你越有利。
2、“表白”是什么？ 前面說了，表白實際上就是一個形式而已，正確的順序應該是：事實上已經成你女朋友 了，才能向人家表白，水到渠成。 很多人弄不明白這個問題，總以為人家先答應做自己女朋友，然後再如何如何，我只能說非常非常“單純”，也非常非常“愚蠢”。
3、有沒有“迫不得已非表白不可”的時候？ 有，比如說出現第三者，或者你和女孩子關係沒有成熟但兩個人可能分開一段時間。 這時候的表白就是條件不成熟的表白，風險非常大，類似於下圍棋的時候形勢嚴峻，落後的一方迫於無奈放出“勝負手”，贏了就贏了，輸了也只能說“倒楣都是天生的”。
4、“愛”字不要輕易出口 經常看見論壇出現“大膽的表白”，說實話我真的認這是非常不成熟的一種表現。“愛”是一個神聖的字，意味著追求，也意味著承諾，甚至體現出一種責任。 隨便說“愛”的男人是不負責任的。
Saturday 15 March 2008
what women really want
A lot of men end up becoming that guy, the guy that girls talk to about their problems.
But the relationship usually doesn't get any farther than being just friends.
All women will tell you they want to date the nice guy or that they can never seem to find a nice guy to date.
The problem is, this isn't exactly correct. These women aren't lying when they say they want these things...when they think logical they do, because it makes sense.
But remember, women don't choose logically what they are attracted to.
So, when they think about it consciously. Women want a guy that will buy them flowers and talk to them when they feel down. But in reality, their instinct is to like a guy who will TAKE CONTROL and ACT LIKE A MAN should.
So what qualities do women want in men?
What they've always wanted and always will want.
Women want REAL MEN, men that are IN CONTROL and don't ask for permission to do anything.
They don't want to be in charge, they want someone to be IN CHARGE of them. Here are some examples,
have ever noticed that... When you give a girl a compliment or tell her how beautiful she is she shies away from you?
But when you... Notice a flaw about her, she will get more involved in the conversation and take you more seriously.
Also, have you noticed... When you spoil a girl by buying her gifts, taking her to an expensive dinner, she usually thanks you the evening and goes out with another guy? But, If you simply go for a quick drink and act like you are equals she feels attracted to you, because you're not catering to her every need.
Have you noticed when.... You call a girl often after a date and she seems distant and funny. But, when you don't call her and you act like you're busy and could live with her or without her, she won't stop calling you.
The truth is women don't want to be catered to, spoiled or treated like princesses. This is what women want from a man... First of all, women want you to be CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF.
So, if you approach a girl and seem shy and awkward, that is a turn off. Women want you to LEAD THE WAY, not the other way around. They don't want to talk about what you are going to do, they just want you to lead the way and do it. They want you to keep it COOL and NOT get emotional.
But the relationship usually doesn't get any farther than being just friends.
All women will tell you they want to date the nice guy or that they can never seem to find a nice guy to date.
The problem is, this isn't exactly correct. These women aren't lying when they say they want these things...when they think logical they do, because it makes sense.
But remember, women don't choose logically what they are attracted to.
So, when they think about it consciously. Women want a guy that will buy them flowers and talk to them when they feel down. But in reality, their instinct is to like a guy who will TAKE CONTROL and ACT LIKE A MAN should.
So what qualities do women want in men?
What they've always wanted and always will want.
Women want REAL MEN, men that are IN CONTROL and don't ask for permission to do anything.
They don't want to be in charge, they want someone to be IN CHARGE of them. Here are some examples,
have ever noticed that... When you give a girl a compliment or tell her how beautiful she is she shies away from you?
But when you... Notice a flaw about her, she will get more involved in the conversation and take you more seriously.
Also, have you noticed... When you spoil a girl by buying her gifts, taking her to an expensive dinner, she usually thanks you the evening and goes out with another guy? But, If you simply go for a quick drink and act like you are equals she feels attracted to you, because you're not catering to her every need.
Have you noticed when.... You call a girl often after a date and she seems distant and funny. But, when you don't call her and you act like you're busy and could live with her or without her, she won't stop calling you.
The truth is women don't want to be catered to, spoiled or treated like princesses. This is what women want from a man... First of all, women want you to be CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF.
So, if you approach a girl and seem shy and awkward, that is a turn off. Women want you to LEAD THE WAY, not the other way around. They don't want to talk about what you are going to do, they just want you to lead the way and do it. They want you to keep it COOL and NOT get emotional.
Being the man
1) Learn To Say "No": Not in an angry way, but in a calm and almost "indifferent" manner.
Examples: "No, dear. We're not going to that restaurant tonight."
"No, I don't want to wait for you to call me 2 hours before the movie to see if you're going. If you can't come, tell me now so I can make other plans or go with someone else."
2) Don't Be Too Nice: If you're the type of guy that likes to "be nice" to women and buy them gifts and take them out to dinner, STOP now.
STOP letting them order you around.
STOP volunteering to "do things for them". Every time you fetch her bottle for her or give her a ride home, she's going to see you MORE as a wussy FRIEND instead of a potential LOVER
3) Be Prepared To Walk: If you aren't getting what you want from a girl, there's no use hanging around. If you aren't happy in a relationship, break out of it. Having this attitude will give you A LOT of power. Once women know that you CAN and WILL walk out if necessary, they won't take you for granted anymore.
4) Plan Out Dates: This is actually the easiest way to demonstrate your LEADERSHIP and INDEPENDENCE.
Have the whole date planned out before you go
Stay in control and just give her a good night out
Remember that people are drawn towards those that have a CLEAR sense of where they're going... so if you plan everything ahead...your date is going to respect you more.
5) Be Decisive: If a girl asks you whether you would like to go for dinner or a play, don't say, "Whatever you like." Give a REAL answer.
Every time you give the "let's do whatever you like, darling" kind of answer, you're handing your power over to HER. Sooner or later, she's going to stop respecting you as an equal partner.
6) Don't Care About What She Thinks Of You: Remember that your job is to ATTRACT her, not to PLEASE her.
Don't let her know that you care what they think of you at all. The moment a girl knows you rely on her opinion of you, she's going to lose respect.
Here's the bottom line: women are only attracted to guys they respect, and guys that try too hard to please women lose their respect over time!
7) Learn The Dating Game: Women respect guys that KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. Think about it...if you were a woman, would you go for a guy that stuttered and sounded not very confident...or a guy that knew EXACTLY how to approach you, WHAT to say to you...and HOW to say it? Remember that women are NATURALLY ATTRACTED to guys they RESPECT. This means POWERFUL, CONFIDENT, and INDEPENDENT guys that make them feel weak in their knees...
Examples: "No, dear. We're not going to that restaurant tonight."
"No, I don't want to wait for you to call me 2 hours before the movie to see if you're going. If you can't come, tell me now so I can make other plans or go with someone else."
2) Don't Be Too Nice: If you're the type of guy that likes to "be nice" to women and buy them gifts and take them out to dinner, STOP now.
STOP letting them order you around.
STOP volunteering to "do things for them". Every time you fetch her bottle for her or give her a ride home, she's going to see you MORE as a wussy FRIEND instead of a potential LOVER
3) Be Prepared To Walk: If you aren't getting what you want from a girl, there's no use hanging around. If you aren't happy in a relationship, break out of it. Having this attitude will give you A LOT of power. Once women know that you CAN and WILL walk out if necessary, they won't take you for granted anymore.
4) Plan Out Dates: This is actually the easiest way to demonstrate your LEADERSHIP and INDEPENDENCE.
Have the whole date planned out before you go
Stay in control and just give her a good night out
Remember that people are drawn towards those that have a CLEAR sense of where they're going... so if you plan everything ahead...your date is going to respect you more.
5) Be Decisive: If a girl asks you whether you would like to go for dinner or a play, don't say, "Whatever you like." Give a REAL answer.
Every time you give the "let's do whatever you like, darling" kind of answer, you're handing your power over to HER. Sooner or later, she's going to stop respecting you as an equal partner.
6) Don't Care About What She Thinks Of You: Remember that your job is to ATTRACT her, not to PLEASE her.
Don't let her know that you care what they think of you at all. The moment a girl knows you rely on her opinion of you, she's going to lose respect.
Here's the bottom line: women are only attracted to guys they respect, and guys that try too hard to please women lose their respect over time!
7) Learn The Dating Game: Women respect guys that KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. Think about it...if you were a woman, would you go for a guy that stuttered and sounded not very confident...or a guy that knew EXACTLY how to approach you, WHAT to say to you...and HOW to say it? Remember that women are NATURALLY ATTRACTED to guys they RESPECT. This means POWERFUL, CONFIDENT, and INDEPENDENT guys that make them feel weak in their knees...
Saturday 1 March 2008
Forget the fear
Willing is a key word. It is what creates the energy and courage to create and live life by DESIGN.
Being WILLING to have them is what creates them.Being willing moves you beyond your limitations into greatness.
The best thing about this is you can change the realities of your life right now if you were to DO something aboutit.
Stop thinking, stop analyzing, stop waiting and start TAKING ACTION.
NEVER let ANYTHING hold back when with women, and the be SHOCKED;because the things say and do, TOTAL OPPOSITES of what you'd expect a guy to do...
Take risks, forget about what's possible and what's not possible for a second and just DO IT.
If you want to approach and talk to her, just DO IT.
If you want to call her, stop coming up with clever, funnylines to impress her and just DO IT.
If you want to ask her out, then just DO IT.
Fear of rejection. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of the unknown. Fear of what a woman might do if we start talking to her. I'd like to remind you that fear is nothing but a THOUGHT. It's NOT real.
Being WILLING to have them is what creates them.Being willing moves you beyond your limitations into greatness.
The best thing about this is you can change the realities of your life right now if you were to DO something aboutit.
Stop thinking, stop analyzing, stop waiting and start TAKING ACTION.
NEVER let ANYTHING hold back when with women, and the be SHOCKED;because the things say and do, TOTAL OPPOSITES of what you'd expect a guy to do...
Take risks, forget about what's possible and what's not possible for a second and just DO IT.
If you want to approach and talk to her, just DO IT.
If you want to call her, stop coming up with clever, funnylines to impress her and just DO IT.
If you want to ask her out, then just DO IT.
Fear of rejection. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of the unknown. Fear of what a woman might do if we start talking to her. I'd like to remind you that fear is nothing but a THOUGHT. It's NOT real.
Tuesday 19 February 2008
Make Her Laugh
Find ANYTHING, her purse, shoes, glasses, what she's doing, how she's doing it, where she's going and make a smart or wise ass comment about it sure to make her LAUGH.
The intention of your playful teasing is not to tease; keep in mind your intention is to ATTRACT her and nothing else.
Tease her when you have a funny or naughty little comment that comes to mind and DON'T hold back.
It seems men with only the intention to have fun and don't really care much what she thinks of him happen to get the best results.
Don't hold back when you have a funny comment, and don't worry what she'll think.
Not to be too worried about what she'll think or if you'll ruin your chances, just have fun.
Women are NOT attracted to men who are all submissive, accomodating and give in to their every demands. They are not attracted to guys who are insecure with themselves & men who are easily INTIMIDATED by women.
you're indirectly 'telling' her that you'retotally COMFORTABLE being yourself, that SHE'LL have to do more than just 'look good' to impress you, and that SHE'S the one who has to work hard for YOUR ATTENTION.
Playfully teasing women & making them laugh is the most direct route to creating attraction with women.
The intention of your playful teasing is not to tease; keep in mind your intention is to ATTRACT her and nothing else.
Tease her when you have a funny or naughty little comment that comes to mind and DON'T hold back.
It seems men with only the intention to have fun and don't really care much what she thinks of him happen to get the best results.
Don't hold back when you have a funny comment, and don't worry what she'll think.
Not to be too worried about what she'll think or if you'll ruin your chances, just have fun.
Women are NOT attracted to men who are all submissive, accomodating and give in to their every demands. They are not attracted to guys who are insecure with themselves & men who are easily INTIMIDATED by women.
you're indirectly 'telling' her that you'retotally COMFORTABLE being yourself, that SHE'LL have to do more than just 'look good' to impress you, and that SHE'S the one who has to work hard for YOUR ATTENTION.
Playfully teasing women & making them laugh is the most direct route to creating attraction with women.
Monday 18 February 2008
Every man should know
NOT kiss ass or do things for them like everyone else.
Be Different.
Expect them to pull their own weight, call them on all of their issues and messed up behaviors just like you would a guy friend or family member (use the same "you're my friend and I'm saying this for your benefit" tone that you'd use with a friend)
Tease and make fun of their insecurities, reframe other men who kiss their ass, and put beauty in a new light
Be Different.
Expect them to pull their own weight, call them on all of their issues and messed up behaviors just like you would a guy friend or family member (use the same "you're my friend and I'm saying this for your benefit" tone that you'd use with a friend)
Tease and make fun of their insecurities, reframe other men who kiss their ass, and put beauty in a new light
Saturday 16 February 2008
Bridges
1.Approch
The key is confidence and poise
Do something NORMAL
2.Getting Digits
The key is to be interesting and funny
COCKY and FUNNY
Make interesting conversation with women
3.Date Request
Keep up the cocky and funny
The Friendship Frame
4.Date
MUST be as clean as possible
Make a good impression
Stay very cool and calm when you first meet a woman - and act almost indifferent. This quality is attractive to women.
5.Holding Hand
it's a good idea to hold a woman's hand forawhile before kissing, this conveys to the woman that you are a warm,friendly person, and someone she can trust.
The interesting thing about hand holding is that men think that handholding means "She wants to have sex" and women think that it means "Oh,he's a nice guy."
An important one to learn is Palmistry, as it leads to you touching herhands!
When you're finished, you just keepholding her hand. It works so perfectly.
6.KISSING
If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to bekissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make acomment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it.
If she smiles and appears to like what she's hearing, I then reach backover and start stroking it again while talking to her. If she likes this, I knowthat she would be receptive to a kiss.
7.Being Alone with Her
This Bridge is all about trust
If she trusts you, and feels safe, she'll be OK with the idea of beingalone with you.
It's important to NOT seem too eager for anything.
DON'T seem too anxious
So be trustworthy
8.Making Out
Men are on/off switches, and women are volume knobs. So work on thisone slowly and with patience.
The first thing to do is NOTHING
Take 10 or 15 minutes and sit back and be only interested in talking. As a matter of fact, sit faraway from her, or LEAN BACK if you're next to her. This sends the message that you're not just horning in for the kill.
Next, when you've both shared a nice laugh together, and the energy is good reach back over and give her a kiss.
This time, WHISPER in her ear that she smells really good. Then start to SMELL her neck and shoulders
Women LOVE tobe smelled, and it instantly turns them on
The things that trigger it:
1. Pulling her hair gently (run your hand up the back of her neck intoher hair, then make a fist and pull lightly).
2. Biting her neck gently (no Dracula here, just lightly).
3. Breathing in her ear and whispering.
4. Kissing her neck.
If you take some time smelling her, she will start to get turned on. Thenit's time to try one of the above to take her to the next level! This is whenyou can start gently rubbing her breasts, etc. and go with some heavy petting.
9.Clothes Off
Compliments also WORK well at this point. Since most women are self conscious about their bodies, a simple "I think you have such a sexy body"will work wonders. Women often NEED to know that you find them attractive.
Now you can start taking off the clothes... first shirt, then bra, thenpants... etc. Go SLOWLY, and if she stops you, just take that as a signal that you need to KEEP UP the SMELLING, neck kissing, ear breathing, etc.
NEVER keep going if a woman says "Stop." But stop doesn't usuallymean "Stop and go away," it usually means "Stop, I need you to turn me onsome more."
Keep talking sexy to her, KISSING, etc. Then try again. The MORE turned on she gets, the more the clothes come off.
10.SEX
The most important part of the Bridge to sex is being prepared!
Be ready! Buy condoms, make sure your house is neat and bed ismade...
If you START, then STOP, then START, then STOP... she'll get REALLY turned on. So do that!
Women love a challenge,and if you can be a challenge in this area, then you're the man!
So KISS her BODY for awhile, then stop. Then KISS her NECK. Then stop.Then BREATHE in her ear... then stop. You get it. If you're patient, she'll eventually do something blatant that says "OK, enough! I'm ready!"
The key is confidence and poise
Do something NORMAL
2.Getting Digits
The key is to be interesting and funny
COCKY and FUNNY
Make interesting conversation with women
3.Date Request
Keep up the cocky and funny
The Friendship Frame
4.Date
MUST be as clean as possible
Make a good impression
Stay very cool and calm when you first meet a woman - and act almost indifferent. This quality is attractive to women.
5.Holding Hand
it's a good idea to hold a woman's hand forawhile before kissing, this conveys to the woman that you are a warm,friendly person, and someone she can trust.
The interesting thing about hand holding is that men think that handholding means "She wants to have sex" and women think that it means "Oh,he's a nice guy."
An important one to learn is Palmistry, as it leads to you touching herhands!
When you're finished, you just keepholding her hand. It works so perfectly.
6.KISSING
If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to bekissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make acomment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it.
If she smiles and appears to like what she's hearing, I then reach backover and start stroking it again while talking to her. If she likes this, I knowthat she would be receptive to a kiss.
7.Being Alone with Her
This Bridge is all about trust
If she trusts you, and feels safe, she'll be OK with the idea of beingalone with you.
It's important to NOT seem too eager for anything.
DON'T seem too anxious
So be trustworthy
8.Making Out
Men are on/off switches, and women are volume knobs. So work on thisone slowly and with patience.
The first thing to do is NOTHING
Take 10 or 15 minutes and sit back and be only interested in talking. As a matter of fact, sit faraway from her, or LEAN BACK if you're next to her. This sends the message that you're not just horning in for the kill.
Next, when you've both shared a nice laugh together, and the energy is good reach back over and give her a kiss.
This time, WHISPER in her ear that she smells really good. Then start to SMELL her neck and shoulders
Women LOVE tobe smelled, and it instantly turns them on
The things that trigger it:
1. Pulling her hair gently (run your hand up the back of her neck intoher hair, then make a fist and pull lightly).
2. Biting her neck gently (no Dracula here, just lightly).
3. Breathing in her ear and whispering.
4. Kissing her neck.
If you take some time smelling her, she will start to get turned on. Thenit's time to try one of the above to take her to the next level! This is whenyou can start gently rubbing her breasts, etc. and go with some heavy petting.
9.Clothes Off
Compliments also WORK well at this point. Since most women are self conscious about their bodies, a simple "I think you have such a sexy body"will work wonders. Women often NEED to know that you find them attractive.
Now you can start taking off the clothes... first shirt, then bra, thenpants... etc. Go SLOWLY, and if she stops you, just take that as a signal that you need to KEEP UP the SMELLING, neck kissing, ear breathing, etc.
NEVER keep going if a woman says "Stop." But stop doesn't usuallymean "Stop and go away," it usually means "Stop, I need you to turn me onsome more."
Keep talking sexy to her, KISSING, etc. Then try again. The MORE turned on she gets, the more the clothes come off.
10.SEX
The most important part of the Bridge to sex is being prepared!
Be ready! Buy condoms, make sure your house is neat and bed ismade...
If you START, then STOP, then START, then STOP... she'll get REALLY turned on. So do that!
Women love a challenge,and if you can be a challenge in this area, then you're the man!
So KISS her BODY for awhile, then stop. Then KISS her NECK. Then stop.Then BREATHE in her ear... then stop. You get it. If you're patient, she'll eventually do something blatant that says "OK, enough! I'm ready!"
10 critical moments
1. Approach (Walking over and saying hello)
2. Digits (Getting a phone number, email address, etc.)
3. Date request (This can actually be done when you first meet)
4. Date (The actual time with her)
5. Hold hands (The first sustained physical contact)
6. Kiss (The first 'intimate' contact)
7. Alone in private (Trust)
8. Make out (Sexually aroused)
9. Clothes off (Very sexually aroused)
10. Sex (Very very very sexually aroused!)
2. Digits (Getting a phone number, email address, etc.)
3. Date request (This can actually be done when you first meet)
4. Date (The actual time with her)
5. Hold hands (The first sustained physical contact)
6. Kiss (The first 'intimate' contact)
7. Alone in private (Trust)
8. Make out (Sexually aroused)
9. Clothes off (Very sexually aroused)
10. Sex (Very very very sexually aroused!)
Change Myself
Definite marjor purpose
be confident
attractive
success with women
Constant Improvment
CONSISTENTLY make an effort at approaching and interactingwith women, you will also have CONSISTENT improvement
Most of us use our imaginations to createhorrible ideas that prevent us from taking action. You might want to talk to that woman, but then imagine somepainfully scary but unrealistic ideas about getting rejected and walkaway instead.
Learn to get out of thehabit of making yourself feel bad and afraid, and into the habit ofmaking yourself feel good and optimistic.
be confident
attractive
success with women
Constant Improvment
CONSISTENTLY make an effort at approaching and interactingwith women, you will also have CONSISTENT improvement
Most of us use our imaginations to createhorrible ideas that prevent us from taking action. You might want to talk to that woman, but then imagine somepainfully scary but unrealistic ideas about getting rejected and walkaway instead.
Learn to get out of thehabit of making yourself feel bad and afraid, and into the habit ofmaking yourself feel good and optimistic.
Thursday 14 February 2008
What they want and what they really want?
Our subconscious may want DIFFERENT things than our conscious.
To understand the difference between what women (consciously) 'think' they want and what they (subconsciously) REALLY want is crucial to your success.
During the introduction stage, when she has no preference for you or anyone else, she mostly consciously ANALYZES your information. She may still answer you positively if your profile fits her image of a "good man" but if you do not give her what she really wants, she will eventually reject you: "I cannot give orders to my heart."
This means you cannot neglect a woman's emotions when trying to win her affection. Even though women think all they need is a good man, what they seek is a man who STIRS THEIR EMOTIONS.
Women are EMOTIONAL creatures. They need 'emotional food' in a relationship. This emotional food is called ROMANCE.
Excitement, ANTICIPATION, thrill, emotional ups and downs, these all are necessary requirements in the game of romance
As long as she FEELS SOMETHING, she is in. As soon as she becomes BORED, she is out. Make her DO SOMETHING for YOU, so she has to put in an effort.
Do not try to BUY her affection with gifts or compliments; this won't work. Make her occasional gift or compliment, to make her feel good about herself.
Only do it because you WANT to do it, not because you EXPECT something in return.
DON'T do sacrifices for her. When deciding on a gift, it does not have to be expensive, and it does not have to be useful; on the contrary, the most senseless romantic gestures work the best.
What women think they want and what they REALLY want are two DIFFERENT things. Women say they want security and stability, while in reality they want STRONGEMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES. They take the game of romance seriously.
To understand the difference between what women (consciously) 'think' they want and what they (subconsciously) REALLY want is crucial to your success.
During the introduction stage, when she has no preference for you or anyone else, she mostly consciously ANALYZES your information. She may still answer you positively if your profile fits her image of a "good man" but if you do not give her what she really wants, she will eventually reject you: "I cannot give orders to my heart."
This means you cannot neglect a woman's emotions when trying to win her affection. Even though women think all they need is a good man, what they seek is a man who STIRS THEIR EMOTIONS.
Women are EMOTIONAL creatures. They need 'emotional food' in a relationship. This emotional food is called ROMANCE.
Excitement, ANTICIPATION, thrill, emotional ups and downs, these all are necessary requirements in the game of romance
As long as she FEELS SOMETHING, she is in. As soon as she becomes BORED, she is out. Make her DO SOMETHING for YOU, so she has to put in an effort.
Do not try to BUY her affection with gifts or compliments; this won't work. Make her occasional gift or compliment, to make her feel good about herself.
Only do it because you WANT to do it, not because you EXPECT something in return.
DON'T do sacrifices for her. When deciding on a gift, it does not have to be expensive, and it does not have to be useful; on the contrary, the most senseless romantic gestures work the best.
What women think they want and what they REALLY want are two DIFFERENT things. Women say they want security and stability, while in reality they want STRONGEMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES. They take the game of romance seriously.
Thursday 7 February 2008
10 ways to act like a challenge
1) Don't Ask, Lead This one is VERY important. A lot of guys ask stupid things like "Would you like to go to this restaurant?", "Can I go to the bathroom", or even worse, "Can we do this again some other time?" And they wonder why they never get a second date! Listen, buddy. Confident men do NOT ask women for permission to do ANYTHING. They JUST do it. They don't ask for a kiss. They don't ask for a second date. They don't ask for ANYTHING. So next time you go out on a date... please... JUST LEAD THE WAY. Instead of asking "Can we...", just say "let's..." and lead her by the arm. But never, never, NEVER ask a woman ANYTHING. Remember, boys: If a woman doesn't like something, she will make sure you know.
2) Never Give a Direct "Yes". If a woman asks you for something, don't just give it to her like all the other pussy guys out there. Make her WORK for it. (Remember, psychology tells us that we appreciate the things we have to WORK for MUCH more than the "freebies".) For example...if she asks, "Can we go to Japanese?" Don't just say "yes." Say..."Maybe...", or you can even tease her and say, "I don't know, only good girls get treated to Japanese. Are you a nice girl?" Or if she asks, "Can we sit over there?", instead of just following her ass like most guys would, grow some spine and say, "No. I'd rather sit here. It's a much nicer view here." The key is to start getting you to act like a MAN.
3) Don't let her "interview" you. If you want a second date, then you better not let your woman "interview" you. Women love to interview men on a first date...so they can weed out all the losers. And guess what? That means if you screw up on just ONE question...you're a GONER. G-O-N-E-R. Goner. And this is EXACTLY why you shouldn't let her interview you in the first place. Whenever she asks things like "So what do you do" or "How much do you make?", just give her a silly answer...like..."Why, are you one of those superficial women? How much do YOU make?" Whatever she says, just TURN IT AROUND playfully.
4) Lift up Your Chest, Tuck Your Tummy In Want to project confidence physically? Do what Sergeant Marius says in the Dating Bootcamp, "Chest up, tummy in, boys." This will NATURALLY put you in a confident position. Ever seen a marine walk? That's how I want you to walk. Chest up, tummy in, soldier!
5) End The Date Early So the date has been going really well and there's a LOT of chemistry between you and your new love. End it now. I am serious. I want you to ALWAYS end the date early to keep the power in YOU. Make your date wonder why you have to go. Make her WANT to go out with you again. Most guys just drag a good date on and on until it becomes a bad date. Don't be the same. Be a man and have the power and self-control to end it early.
6) Don't Let Her Challenge You If you act like a wussy and back down whenever a woman challenges you, her attraction for you is going to drop faster than an apple dropping down from a tree. Most guys make the mistake of thinking they should never risk "offending" a woman by showing her their spines. WRONG. Never bow down to a woman you like. Don't suck up to her whenever she challenges you. Because if you do, she's going to lose respect for you as a potential boyfriend or lover. So next time a woman challenges you, have some spine and stand up for yourself. For example... If a woman tries to challenge you or to seduce you by staring into your eyes, stare back. Don't look away until SHE does. (The moment you look away and blush in shyness, she's going to lose respect for you as a man and find another man who's stronger.)
7) Don't Talk About A Second Date Never talk about a second date while you're still on the first date. Be a challenge - don't act like a eager beaver. Remember my golden rule: Take it one date at a time.
8) Don't Tell Her You Like Her Never, never, NEVER tell a woman you like her. Don't EVER try to "express your feelings for her". That is worse than ripping your own spine out and strangling yourself with it. I am not kidding. Once it's out in the open that you like her, half the game is over. SHE will have all the power, not you. Girls love trying to figure out if a guy likes them or not. It's part of the dating game. So don't take it away from them!
9) Let Her Think She's Not The Only One If she asks you if you're seeing anybody else, don't freak out and say, "No. Just you." Be a MAN and be a CHALLANGE. Say something like, "Well, I have a couple of possible prospects right now. We'll see who wins." Then flash her a smile.
10) Be In Control From The Beginning To The End This is extremely important. If you're taking a girl out, even casually, then you should be literally taking her out and giving her a good time. You shouldn't be seeking her permission every step of the way. You should be SWEEPING HER OFF HER FEET instead. She's in YOUR WORLD now - give her a good reason to stay there.
2) Never Give a Direct "Yes". If a woman asks you for something, don't just give it to her like all the other pussy guys out there. Make her WORK for it. (Remember, psychology tells us that we appreciate the things we have to WORK for MUCH more than the "freebies".) For example...if she asks, "Can we go to Japanese?" Don't just say "yes." Say..."Maybe...", or you can even tease her and say, "I don't know, only good girls get treated to Japanese. Are you a nice girl?" Or if she asks, "Can we sit over there?", instead of just following her ass like most guys would, grow some spine and say, "No. I'd rather sit here. It's a much nicer view here." The key is to start getting you to act like a MAN.
3) Don't let her "interview" you. If you want a second date, then you better not let your woman "interview" you. Women love to interview men on a first date...so they can weed out all the losers. And guess what? That means if you screw up on just ONE question...you're a GONER. G-O-N-E-R. Goner. And this is EXACTLY why you shouldn't let her interview you in the first place. Whenever she asks things like "So what do you do" or "How much do you make?", just give her a silly answer...like..."Why, are you one of those superficial women? How much do YOU make?" Whatever she says, just TURN IT AROUND playfully.
4) Lift up Your Chest, Tuck Your Tummy In Want to project confidence physically? Do what Sergeant Marius says in the Dating Bootcamp, "Chest up, tummy in, boys." This will NATURALLY put you in a confident position. Ever seen a marine walk? That's how I want you to walk. Chest up, tummy in, soldier!
5) End The Date Early So the date has been going really well and there's a LOT of chemistry between you and your new love. End it now. I am serious. I want you to ALWAYS end the date early to keep the power in YOU. Make your date wonder why you have to go. Make her WANT to go out with you again. Most guys just drag a good date on and on until it becomes a bad date. Don't be the same. Be a man and have the power and self-control to end it early.
6) Don't Let Her Challenge You If you act like a wussy and back down whenever a woman challenges you, her attraction for you is going to drop faster than an apple dropping down from a tree. Most guys make the mistake of thinking they should never risk "offending" a woman by showing her their spines. WRONG. Never bow down to a woman you like. Don't suck up to her whenever she challenges you. Because if you do, she's going to lose respect for you as a potential boyfriend or lover. So next time a woman challenges you, have some spine and stand up for yourself. For example... If a woman tries to challenge you or to seduce you by staring into your eyes, stare back. Don't look away until SHE does. (The moment you look away and blush in shyness, she's going to lose respect for you as a man and find another man who's stronger.)
7) Don't Talk About A Second Date Never talk about a second date while you're still on the first date. Be a challenge - don't act like a eager beaver. Remember my golden rule: Take it one date at a time.
8) Don't Tell Her You Like Her Never, never, NEVER tell a woman you like her. Don't EVER try to "express your feelings for her". That is worse than ripping your own spine out and strangling yourself with it. I am not kidding. Once it's out in the open that you like her, half the game is over. SHE will have all the power, not you. Girls love trying to figure out if a guy likes them or not. It's part of the dating game. So don't take it away from them!
9) Let Her Think She's Not The Only One If she asks you if you're seeing anybody else, don't freak out and say, "No. Just you." Be a MAN and be a CHALLANGE. Say something like, "Well, I have a couple of possible prospects right now. We'll see who wins." Then flash her a smile.
10) Be In Control From The Beginning To The End This is extremely important. If you're taking a girl out, even casually, then you should be literally taking her out and giving her a good time. You shouldn't be seeking her permission every step of the way. You should be SWEEPING HER OFF HER FEET instead. She's in YOUR WORLD now - give her a good reason to stay there.
Friday 18 January 2008
Spark the chemistry
1. Giving her a hard time about something in a flirty way, in person,when responding to her personal ad, etc.
2. Mentioning how the relationship just doesn’t seem to be working.
3. Overly dramatic complaints about her job performance, behavior,difficultness, etc.
4. Behaving like you could take her or leave her… and like she’s just agood friend (too comfortable)… unlike all the other men who communicate that they’re awed and in wussville because they’re INTERESTED.
2. Mentioning how the relationship just doesn’t seem to be working.
3. Overly dramatic complaints about her job performance, behavior,difficultness, etc.
4. Behaving like you could take her or leave her… and like she’s just agood friend (too comfortable)… unlike all the other men who communicate that they’re awed and in wussville because they’re INTERESTED.
Wednesday 16 January 2008
Cocky comedy
Teasing, busting her balls, creating tension, playing hard to get, not giving her what she wants, being unpredictable, using cocky comedy are always to push the "attraction buttons" without being abusive or mean.
1.Use the magic formula of COCKY+FUNNY. Arrogance by itself is aturn-off to women. But arrogant humor that MAKES THEM LAUGH is aHUGE turn on. Make jokes about her trying to pick up on you, tease her about something she is insecure about, make fun of others... just make sure it's making her laugh.
2. Give her a hard time and tease her about something as soon as you possibly can. Now, I'm not talking about being MEAN here. I'm talking about teasing a woman just like you might do with a family member.This communicates total confidence and comfort in your own skin.
3. Hold yourself in a way that communicates confidence, leadership, anddominance. Use good posture, move very slowly and confidently.Don't laugh or smile very often.
4. Don't do "nice guy" stuff like buying drinks, giving compliments about beauty, or acting needy. In the beginning you must keep your cool and act as if YOU are the catch and she is the lucky one.
1.Use the magic formula of COCKY+FUNNY. Arrogance by itself is aturn-off to women. But arrogant humor that MAKES THEM LAUGH is aHUGE turn on. Make jokes about her trying to pick up on you, tease her about something she is insecure about, make fun of others... just make sure it's making her laugh.
2. Give her a hard time and tease her about something as soon as you possibly can. Now, I'm not talking about being MEAN here. I'm talking about teasing a woman just like you might do with a family member.This communicates total confidence and comfort in your own skin.
3. Hold yourself in a way that communicates confidence, leadership, anddominance. Use good posture, move very slowly and confidently.Don't laugh or smile very often.
4. Don't do "nice guy" stuff like buying drinks, giving compliments about beauty, or acting needy. In the beginning you must keep your cool and act as if YOU are the catch and she is the lucky one.
Turn normal to exciting
In Polite Conversation You........../In Attractive Conversation You
Talk Like You Just Me................../Talk Like You’re Old Friends
Give Common Responses............../ Tease and Use Cocky Comedy
Discuss Boring Typical Topics....../ Use Sexual/Suggestive Subtexts
Speak In a Stilted, Nervous Voice./Have A Secure and Relaxed Tone
Talk Like You Just Me................../Talk Like You’re Old Friends
Give Common Responses............../ Tease and Use Cocky Comedy
Discuss Boring Typical Topics....../ Use Sexual/Suggestive Subtexts
Speak In a Stilted, Nervous Voice./Have A Secure and Relaxed Tone
From wuss to attractive
Affection-Behavior /Attraction-Behavior
Buying Gifts (Dinner, Flowers) /Surprise Romance
Seeking Approval /Indifference
Showing Off /Being Vague,Elusive, Mysterious
Listening to Problems /Teasing
Doing Favors /Acting with Self-Respect
Accepting Flaky Behavior /Having High Expectations
Changing to Please Her /Maintaining Self-Confidence
Buying Gifts (Dinner, Flowers) /Surprise Romance
Seeking Approval /Indifference
Showing Off /Being Vague,Elusive, Mysterious
Listening to Problems /Teasing
Doing Favors /Acting with Self-Respect
Accepting Flaky Behavior /Having High Expectations
Changing to Please Her /Maintaining Self-Confidence
Attitude
Be cool, calm and composure
Don’t be weak and tentative.
Make your own decisions and then act on them confidently.
Seek indifference.
Don’t let things impress you easily.
Don’t get all self-conscious about your mistakes. Acknowledge them with light humor but don’t try to hide or excuse them.
Never excuse your behavior and don’t say, "Oh, I'm sorry." Instead,have fun and blame mistakes on her.
Don’t be always checking whether or not she’s happy. Allow her totake care of herself or come to you when she wants help
Adopt a "so, entertain me" attitude and ask her to make an effort for you.
Don’t be weak and tentative.
Make your own decisions and then act on them confidently.
Seek indifference.
Don’t let things impress you easily.
Don’t get all self-conscious about your mistakes. Acknowledge them with light humor but don’t try to hide or excuse them.
Never excuse your behavior and don’t say, "Oh, I'm sorry." Instead,have fun and blame mistakes on her.
Don’t be always checking whether or not she’s happy. Allow her totake care of herself or come to you when she wants help
Adopt a "so, entertain me" attitude and ask her to make an effort for you.
Tuesday 15 January 2008
I beliefs
·I'm confident, comfortable in my own skin (posture, breath,movements).
·I'm a good communicator—especially of what I want.
·I'm in control and don't let outside events destabilize me.
·I'm not needy... I keep my power for me.
·I think sex is great and have no hang-ups.
·I'm comfortable around women.·
I can control myself and can wait patiently.
·I don't tolerate disrespect of myself, my time, or my property.
·I'm a catch.
·I'm not impressed by outward symbols, such as money or status.
·I may be smitten by a woman, but I don’t tell her early on, and I don't let it 'slip' indirectly.
·I don't let women use their looks or sexual power to take advantage. I give them no special privileges.
·I'm not self-conscious and could care less what others think about me.
·I put myself and my life first.
·I deserve and can hold an exceptional woman.
·I am indifferent to the outcome.
·I can deal with any test a woman throws at me.
·I'm a good communicator—especially of what I want.
·I'm in control and don't let outside events destabilize me.
·I'm not needy... I keep my power for me.
·I think sex is great and have no hang-ups.
·I'm comfortable around women.·
I can control myself and can wait patiently.
·I don't tolerate disrespect of myself, my time, or my property.
·I'm a catch.
·I'm not impressed by outward symbols, such as money or status.
·I may be smitten by a woman, but I don’t tell her early on, and I don't let it 'slip' indirectly.
·I don't let women use their looks or sexual power to take advantage. I give them no special privileges.
·I'm not self-conscious and could care less what others think about me.
·I put myself and my life first.
·I deserve and can hold an exceptional woman.
·I am indifferent to the outcome.
·I can deal with any test a woman throws at me.
Flirtatious
Being unpredictable
Being unusual
Make her feeling good or bad, better than feeling NOTHING
Cocky, funny response shows confident
Being unusual
Make her feeling good or bad, better than feeling NOTHING
Cocky, funny response shows confident
Monday 14 January 2008
Conversation with sex related topic
Not talking about SEX, DONT want her to know you're thinking about it
It is exactly what tells her you are think about it and that you're NOT WORTHY of it
It is exactly what tells her you are think about it and that you're NOT WORTHY of it
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