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Sunday 27 July 2008

Using Insecurities To Touch A Woman

We ALL have weaknesses, vulnerabilities and insecurities. And most of the time, we try very hard to hide them but they don't realize how vulnerabilities can be used to ATTRACT women
as well! Revealing your insecurities is one of the BEST things you can do to stand out from other guys.

What's the big deal anyway? EVERY guy has them. Most men try to cover them up... but the more they try, the MORE insecure they appear to be. And women HATE this. It's like when a woman wears way too much makeup -- it's obvious she's trying to cover up something BAD.

Its not asking you to keep whining, complaining and talking about how your world fell apart when your dog diedor how "unfairly" you were treated by people around you all the time. That's just being NEGATIVE.

What I am saying however is to show her an occasional GLIMPSE into the frail and soft side of your character. This little "peek" into your softer side will draw her into your area of weakness and this will in turn HUMANIZE her view of you, lower her suspicion and EASE up her "guard" against you - paving a way for DEEPER attachment.

Normally strong and in control, at times you must know when to let go and give into your weaknesses and let her SEE it.

There is an old saying that if you want to get someone on your side, you must first get them to TRUST you or at least feel "superior" to you. People are bound to trust ANYTHING over which they believe they have CONTROL.

Example: Let's just say you are naturally a SHY guy - at certain times, give your "shyness" a little weight and lay on a little thick. BLOW it up a little if you have to. When you look at her, try slightly lowering your head and give a shy glance upward to her. Watch her reaction.

Peopl are always saying that women like men who are strong and confident. But that's not the WHOLE story. women find themselves drawn to men who know when to show their vulnerable and weak sides... AT THE RIGHT TIME.

This usually happens when you're both sharing stories about yourselves. It happens VERY INTIMATELY. When you know how to 'time' your moves correctly, your so-called "weakness" of being shy will draw her in and give you a certain "seductive" charm she'll find strikingly ALLURING.

Here's another fact: A woman for example, is usually attracted to a man's strength and confidence but too much of these mentioned qualities can cause FEAR and DISLIKE. Or worse still when the male is unfeeling and aloof.

When a female senses this in a guy, she may start feeling DOUBTFUL about his motives. If you want to be "smooth" and as NATURAL as you can bewith women, you have to learn how and when to show your emotions - to let SOME out and get her to SEE and FEEL your soft side.

The key is to indulge in your soft side while maintaining your masculinity at the same time but you'd want to keep things in MODERATION. A glimpse into your shy self for instance is enough as too much of it makes you look like a PATHETIC, sad freak.

Friday 18 July 2008

Create those spark of attraction

Let's say that you have two stones... How would you create a 'spark' between two stones? Do you take both stones and rub them together gently, as if they're sharing a kiss? or You take one stone and you strike the other one with it, hard! That's what creates a 'spark', yes?

If you want to create an attraction in the woman, for you, one of you will have to strike that stone. In this case, it will have to be YOU. The woman has no incentive to do so.

So, it's up to YOU to create those sparks of attraction. If she has already placed you in 'the zone', the 'friendzone', the ONLY way for you to get out of it is to use disconnectors to 'cut off' all previous connections. It's an entirely SEPERATE topic alltogether.

To draw women in, you have to be unique, entertaining, arrogant and offensive even. Make fun of her a little. It's not thing wrong women are used to getting compliments, especially 'suck up' wussy-like compliments on their beauty and looks. So, DON'T do that.

If you have to give a compliment, turn it into a jab. Poke fun at her with it.

Example... "I like your eyes." And then add... "Is that your REALeye color?"
"I like your hair" or "You have great hair." Then, add... "Is it REAL?"

She'll probably look at you and think, or say... "I can't believe you just said that!!" She may either laugh at it or act offended. Either way, don't worry about it. And don't apologize and don't say "I'm kidding." Just smile or laugh, regardless of how she reacts.

You're striking the stones together. Remember No "nice" rubbing allowed! You want to heat things up, not get a lukewarm reaction.

Remember, the approach is used just to START the conversation. Nothing else. After that, you can immediately switch to a story or routine that you've planned ahead of time.

If you're out approaching women in clubs and you've started with a quick story or scenario like..."Hey, did you see that girl being thrown out by the bouncer?"

You can now switch to something else. Shift the conversation to something/somewhere else. You can even turn to the girl you're supposed to be ignoring and say...

"You, especially, look like a lightweight. You don't seem like you can handle more than one glass, huh?"Her: Why!!?"Oh, I don't know, you seem too petite and proper" If she says, "That's right. I'm not a drunkard like you/them," you can reply with... "It's okay. I won't hold it against you. You're forgiven. =)

It's just takes practice to get the flow right. By not complimenting her or paying too much attention, you're putting everyone at ease, including her friends who won't have to protect their friend from another pervert. You're more of a challenge, and she will have to work a little to get you to start liking her.

It demonstrates you're AT EASE around hot women; an added DHV (demonstration of higher value). It's essentially all about having a STRUCTURED, PROVEN system of doing things that makes the difference between a LAYor a REJECTION.

I could have as many friends as I wanted

It feels good. A sudden increase in your social network. Being IN DEMAND for once instead of IGNORED. No matter what we may think about popularity, and how we turn our noses at it, it sure does feel GOOD.

The reality was that nothing changed about ME, just my thoughts. I just acted on a BELIEF. It was my own insecurities and beliefs about my ACTING.

I could have as many friends as I wanted, I started to respond to this sudden social wealth in my life by wanting to be a part of it all.

This is what an ALPHA MAN is - socially desired. He knows that it's not the anti-social jerk that gets to have all the fun (and the women) in life, but the guy who's calm and confident in his own skin, and can still be liked by others.