9 Mistakes men make

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much of A "Nice" Guy

I'm sure you've had attractive
female friends that always seemed to date
"jerks"... but for some reason they were never
romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple...

Women don't base their choices of men on how
"nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do
because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION
for them.

And guess what?

Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that
powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince" Her To Like You

What do most guys do when they meet a woman
that they REALLY like... but she's just not
interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel
differently.

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER
CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO
ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently
about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in
the world do you expect to change that FEELING by
being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg,
plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or
Permission

In our desire to please women (which we
mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys
are always doing things to get a woman's
"approval" or "permission".

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men
who kiss up to them... EVER.

Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to
like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well
means "always getting her approval and permission
for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval.
Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their
approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if
Wussy guys who chase her around and want her
approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With
Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a
nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had
her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her
even HALF as well as you did?

If you're like me, then you've had it happen a
LOT.

Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens...

That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear
message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so
I'm going to try to buy your attention and
affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to
women as over-compensation for insecurity, and
weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I
said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In
The Relationship With Her

Most men don't realize this, but attractive
women are being approached in one way or another
ALL THE TIME by men.

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of
men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women
off and sends her running away faster than just
about anything is a guy who starts saying "You
know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two
dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like
all the other guys who fall for her too fast...
and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For
Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes
to ATTRACTION.

When a man sees a beautiful woman
he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more
average and unattractive men with beautiful women
than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities
in men... and they're more attracted to the way a man
makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and
communication correctly, you can make women feel
the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you
that YOU feel when you see a beautiful young
woman.

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make
is giving up before they've even gotten started...
because they think that attractive women are only
interested in men who have looks and money... or
guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a
certain age.

MOST women are far more interested in a
man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women
like a magnet...

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just
because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use
your body language and communication correctly,
you can make women feel the same kind of powerful
sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you
see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Said differently, guys try to get women to like
them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can
walk all over... Women aren't attracted to
Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than
men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for
example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and
you want to kiss her, she knows it.

If you don't know what to do in each situation,
you will probably screw it up... and LOSE
EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY
how to go from one step to the next with a
woman... from the first meeting, all the way to
the bedroom.

10 ways to become a more Interesting man

No.10 - Turn Everything Into An Adventure

A fun thing you can do with a woman you just met, believe it or not, is to take her to run errands. It’s something that is non-threatening, and that almost any woman will go do with you. As long as you have some rapport, a woman will go food shopping with you. Simply say: “You know what? I’m going to pop down to the supermarket and get some supplies. Come with me -- it’ll be a little adventure for us.”

Then, when you get to the supermarket, do fun stuff. Go to the magazine rack, pick up a ridiculous magazine, and make fun of some celeb who was dumb enough to let a photographer get that close. Everything can be a fun, unpredictable adventure -- if you turn it into one.

No.9 - Convince Her That It Will Be Fun

We all want to feel something when it comes to the opposite sex. One feeling every woman wants is the feeling of fun. You can make anything fun by simply adjusting your attitude. Whatever you’re about to do, have the attitude of “let’s make this fun.”

Why do I use the word "fun?" Go on any online dating site and read a woman's profile; you’ll see that the one thing that women are looking for more than anything else is a “fun-loving man” . It’s a trait they’re all looking for. So make everything fun -- you have the power to make it happen.

No.8 - Leave Her Wanting More

One of the ways you can leave her wanting more is to end everything she’s enjoying on an up note. If she asks you to teach her something, teach her something great that she loves; then, when she asks you to teach her more, tell her -- “Next time.”

If you go somewhere really fun with her and she’s having a great time, right at the peak leave to go do something else, or tell her you have to go. When you’re talking to a woman on the phone for the first time, and the conversation is going great, that’s the time to let her know you have to run. This gets her asking herself why you didn’t ask her out, and if she’s going to get to talk to you again. And that’s a beautiful thing for her to be wondering about.

No.7 - Go Back To The Basics

On your path to mastery, you’re going to have setbacks. You’re going to be off your game, or you’ll screw up some other area of your life and that’s going to screw up this one. When this happens, go back to the basics, do not act out of desperation. And don’t start looking for some crazy technique to fix things.

Stick with the fundamentals, and you’ll ride out the storm. Don’t worry if you don’t understand this now. You will when you need to.

No.6 - Wait Until She Comes To You

If you’re in a relationship with a woman you really like, and the relationship starts deteriorating, and you get that feeling that it might end, what should you do? End it.

Sit down with her and say: “I’ve been thinking about our relationship lately. I think we both know it’s not heading where we want it to. I care about you a lot as a person. I like you; you’re someone I want to know for a long time, whether we have a relationship or not. But I think it’s best if we take some time off. Let’s end this now, let’s see what happens in the future.”

Step back and wait until she comes back to you. Why? If she doesn’t come back to you, then it's likely she would have ended it with you anyway, and that would have messed with your head. In this case, by ending it yourself you have more control and you make it far more likely that it’ll work out in the future. It’s like pulling the “emotional drug needle” out of your arm: It hurts at first because you’re addicted to it, but it’s what you need to do for yourself before bad things happen.

No.5 - Have Three Female Friends That Are Like The Women You Want To Meet

I’ve said before that it’s important to become the kind of guy women like to be around. So here’s a homework assignment: Get three female friends that are like the woman you’d like to meet. Don’t try to date them, just make them your friends.

Birds of a feather flock together, which for you means that your new friends will soon introduce you to their attractive, fun-loving female friends -- no pickup lines required.

No.4 - When You Find Something She Really Likes, Tease Her

There will always be a few things that she really, really likes. It could be a certain kind of food, a certain way you touch her, a certain experience. When you find something she really likes, stop, pull back and make her really want it before youtease her with a little more. This can be the source of her greatest pleasure in the entire relationship.

No.3 - Make The Conversation Interesting

Make the conversation an adventure. Learn to tell a great story and find topics that are naturally interesting to talk about. How do you get a better knack for this? It’s simple: Set yourself up in a place where you can hear the conversations women have. Listen to them talking to each other, see if you can notice the commonalities. But there’s a danger here: You don’t want to start acting like a woman’s “girl friend.”

Yes, many women like to have gay friends, but that’s not what she really wants -- and it’s not what you want to become. But do listen to conversations to get clues on how you can spice up your chats with women.

No.2 - Become A Renaissance Man

The renaissance was a period in history where many different things intersected: art, music, science, philosophy, maths, and more. Cultivate all the different areas of your life: artistic, physical, relationships with different kinds of people, music, etc. Keep adding skills in different areas that you enjoy, and women will be magnetically attracted to you.

No.1 - Keep Developing Yourself

The most important thing you can do to become a more interesting man -- the kind of man women love to have in their lives -- is to invest in developing yourself. Read books, attend workshops, whatever it takes; get to know yourself, and develop all the different aspects of your life. If you do this, day in and day out, you’ll soon wake up and realise that you’ve become a more interesting person all the way around. You’ll realise you have way more women in your life than you ever had before. Do whatever it takes to make this investment in yourself -- it’ll pay off in spades.

Get back on track, woman crave a challenge

women CRAVE a challenge, and are repelled
by men who make their interest obvious.

It's easy to tell yourself you're going to be "more
challenging" to women, but then you meet a hot chick and it
seems like she's into you, so you throw all the rules and
common sense out the window and just want to do it whatever it
takes to lock her down as your girlfriend.

Well, you ever notice what happens when you make an "exception"
and ignore these rules, and start texting her all the time
and trying to see her?

YOU LOSE.
Once you've shown weakness to
a woman, and made it obvious that you would crawl over
broken glass to get a date with her, it's not easy for you to
suddenly make her think you're some super-confident,
independent guy.

The way to salvage this situation is to LAY OFF her for
awhile. Go out and meet other women.
Remember this: when a girl seems to be interested in you,
but then acts like she's always too "busy" to see you, she's
testing you. She's not really THAT busy.
What she's doing is testing you. She's confused about her
feelings. On the one hand, she likes you... but on the other
hand, she's worried that you might be like all the other
guys who chase after her and wind up annoying her.

More specifically, she is worried that:

A) You're not really that desirable. You're not much of a
"prize." If you allow your world to revolve around her,
what does that say about your desirability?

Obviously, you don't have other options, which
means that women generally are not attracted to you. Women
will judge your value based on your desirablity to other
women.

They don't need to see you with other women, but they need
to feel that you are a prize, and that you have all kinds of
other options.

B) You're just trying to bang her. She worries that if she
"gives it up" to you, you're then going to ditch her and
move on to the next girl.

Either way, her solution is to play "hard to get" and see
what you're made of.

So, if you're going to re-establish contact with her and
try to get things back on track, you've got to make it EASY
for her to say "yes."

You don't tell her how you feel about her. You don't
apologize for anything. You contact her and you lay out a
firm GAME PLAN that sounds interesting and agreeable.

Forget about text-messaging her.

This is weak bullshit. 
Call her.

She has to hear the enthusiasm and confidence in
your tone of your voice. If you leave a message on her
voicemail, here is the wrong way, and the right way, to do
it:

WACK TACTIC: "Hey, it's Simon. Um, I know we haven't talked
in a while, I was just wondering how you've been..."

MACK TACTIC: "What's up, it's Simon. Listen, I was thinking
of you the other night, I discovered this new after-work
spot for Happy Hour, and it's exactly your type of vibe.

I saw one of your friends there, it was really funny
actually. Give me a ring. Talk to you soon."

(Did you actually see her friend there? No, but it's an
added "hook" to get her to return your phone call. If she
questions you on this, just say, "actually, I thought I saw
one of your friends so I walked over and said hi, and it
turned out to be a girl that looked exactly like her.

I swear, your friend has a twin. Anyway, so I'll be going
back there on Friday night, come meet me for a drink
because I've got some really cool news that I want to tell
you about."

Again, you're giving her a hook. You want to tell her
some "cool news."

What is this news?

It doesn't really matter. When you meet her, if she asks,
just make something up.

It could be something that happened at your job, or
something exciting that happened to a friend of yours.

Whatever.

The point is, you've gotten her to agree to see you. 

The bad boy tactics

The attraction is rooted in the female
DNA. Women are subconsciously seeking a man who makes
them feel secure, who has the ability to protect her
and their offspring.


In this day and age, one doesn't need the physical
strength to slay dinosaurs or fend off barbarian hordes.

Bad Boys don't need to have money, either. It's their
emotional strength that women are drawn towards. They play
by their own rules and have unstoppable self-confidence,
which means they've possess survival tools that the
sensitive "metrosexuals" lack. 

Another element of the attraction is that women want
what they can't have.

Meanwhile, Nice Guys bend over backwards to avoid drama;
Bad Boys give women all the drama they can handle.

For women, the emotional rollercoaster of dating a
Bad Boy--who's always got other hotties on speed-dial,
and is constantly challenging her to hold his
interest--becomes addicting.
First, stop making yourself constantly available to
women. you can send themessage that you live a rich, busy Alpha Male lifestyle by simply taking a different tact when women want to make plans with you. 
Let's say you exchanged phone numbers with a hottie
the other day. She calls you up and says, "Me and
my friends are going out tonight to the bar, do
you want to come meet up?"

WACK RESPONSE: "Definitely! I can be there in an hour."

MACK RESPONSE: "Well, I have some appointments tonight...
but if I can get freed up a bit later, I'll try to
stop by and make an appearance."

There's a major difference in how a woman will
perceive these two types of responses: you're
either the typical, eager-to-please dude with
nothing else going on his life, or you're the
Mack who fits women into his schedule, and only
sees women at his convenience.

(What are your "other appointments?" You keep this
vague on purpose. Women will usually assume you're
spending time with other women, and this is a GOOD
thing...)

Next, it's critical that you are a decision maker
instead of always putting the ball in her court.
I'll tell you a secret about women: they hate to
make decisions. This has to do with how they're
wired.

Men are wired to operate according to logic, and
to solve problems so that they avoid uneccessary
bullshit and drama; women are ruled by their
emotions, which are constantly shifting and can
erupt into drama for no apparent reason.

(Women subconsciously seek to create drama, especially
when they're in relationships, as it serves to make
their partner reassure them and confirm that he's
there to support her.)

A woman can experience turbulent emotions over
something as simple as making plans for next
Saturday night, or figuring out which dress to buy.

As a man, you've got to be the emotional rock who makes
the decisions and puts her emotions in check.

By always making the necessary decisions and laying
out the gameplan, she will be compelled to follow your
lead. This, in turn, makes her feel secure with you.

Let's look at another example. You call a girl
to plan a date...
WACK APPROACH: "So I was thinking, maybe if you're free
sometime, we could do something..."

MACK APPROACH: "You said you don't work on Friday night,
and there's this awesome new café with great music that
I want to show you. I'm going there Friday around nine
o'clock, I can pick you up and we can go together."

Most importantly, stop broadcasting your interest.

Never make it obvious that you're into a girl; the Bad
Boy always keeps women guessing. This means no more
complimenting women on their beauty, confessing your
attraction, or being available anytime she wants to see
you or chat on the phone.

Maintain an element of mystery and never act easily
impressed. 
This attitude is manifested in the way you converse
with women:
playfully teasing women and throwing out little
"challenges" to see if she meets your high standards,
rather than taking the typical approach--which is to
talk about yourself and try to impress her.



There's a scene in The Empire Strikes Back that says
it all.
Han Solo (played by Harrison Ford) is about to be
dragged off to the deep-freeze chamber. Princess Leia
only has a couple of seconds to say goodbye.

The sexual tension and attraction has been building up
between them. They share a passionate kiss, and she
blurts out, "I love you."

Han looks at her coolly and says, "I know."

That's a classic Bad Boy reply. It comes down to being
the prize instead of the pursuer.

The rule of reciprocity

The Rule of Reciprocity: anextremely powerful sales technique that plays on our nature as
human beings.

Basically, the Rule states that when you give something to
someone for "free," they're going to feel OBLIGATED to do
something for you in return ... even if it's something of much
greater value. 

The problem is, most guys do things for women CONSTANTLY and
get NOTHING in return.
He didn't have a problem with meeting new girls, getting phone
numbers, and lining up dates ...

But he had a pattern of being blown off by girls AFTER the
first or second date.

This always surprised him. He thought these dates went pretty
well, and that he was laying solid groundwork. He expected to
see the girls again.
The girls wouldn't return his calls, or they would make up an
excuse about how "busy" they were.

Worst of all, some girls hit him with the dreaded line,
"You're a really great guy, but I just like you as a friend."

He told us about his most recent effort, with a girl named
Mandy. On the first date, he spent $100 taking her to lunch
at a nice sushi restaurant.

On the second date, he took her to dinner and a movie. He
chose one of the best Italian restaurants in town, ordered them
a bottle of wine, and spent $250 on the evening.

At the end of the night she just gave him a hug goodnight,
but Gary figured he was IN with this girl.

He assumed that on the NEXT date he would seal the deal... he
just had to "play it cool."

But when he called her to schedule date #3, she told him she
was "really busy" and wouldn't be able to see him that week.
So he called her the week after that and left a message.

Two weeks later, and she still hasn't called him back...

He was confused and disappointed. He was racking his
brain trying to figure out if he did something wrong.
It just didn't seem to make sense ... 
"You'd think she would be appreciative!" he
complained to us. He knew that her ex-boyfriend
had been broke all the time. His idea of "dining out" was
taking her to Taco Bell.

And now along came Him, taking her to fancy
restaurants, spending money on her...you would think she
would be grateful, right?


WRONG.

He was actually making women feel UNCOMFORTABLE by
spending that type of money and showering such attention
on them.
Put it this way. Have you ever gone out for a meal with
an acquaintance (not a close friend), and at the end of
the meal, they grabbed the check and insisted on paying?

It's a pretty hefty bill, and you expected you would be
splitting the cost ... but they insisted on paying,
and wouldn't take your money.

When someone does this for us, we feel appreciative,
but we also feel slightly uncomfortable -- because
we feel indebted.

You feel like you want to buy THEM a meal, or something,
as soon as possible.

Owing someone is an uncomfortable feeling. 
This is where He went wrong. He was spending
hundreds of dollars on a girl he was just getting
to know.

He thought he was impressing her with his generosity,
but it had the opposite effect. After that $250 date,
she gave him a hug goodnight and got out of there,
because the fact that Gary was spending that much money
on her made her feel uncomfortable.

When a guy shells out a substantial amount of money
on a first or second date, and he hasn't hooked up with
the girl yet, it can backfire on multiple levels.

She's thinking, "Gosh, if he's spending this much
money on dinner, he probably expects me to put out
at the end of the night..."

Or she's thinking, "There's no way I'm sleeping with
him tonight. If I do, he'll think I can be bought and
paid for... and that would make me slutty ... "
As a Mack, you've got to keep women in a comfort zone.
You never want her to think you EXPECT anything.

You project the sense that you are a man with many
options. You send the message that SHE needs to impress
YOU if she's going to deserve more of your time in the
future.

Spending more than $50 on a first or second date, or
taking women to elaborate places, suggests that YOU are
the one who is trying to impress.

It also telegraphs your interest, and when you do this,
women stop viewing you as a challenge.

So instead of taking her to dinner on a first date,
meet up for a drink or coffee. Hang out. Let her grow
more and more comfortable with you, stimulate her
attraction triggers, and work the process.

Once you've hooked up with her, and decided she might
be a "keeper," THEN you can take her out to a nice dinner.
Think of it as "rewarding" her.

When it comes to spending cash on women -- whether it's
paying for a drink at the bar, or buying an expensive
gift for a girl you're in a relationship with--always
think of it as a reward.

She has earned it because she has proved herself WORTHY
of your time and money.
Guys who flash money to women doesn't make
you originial. To women, you're just a dime a dozen. 
In fact,
it's the guys who know how to cut through the small talk, and
stimulate a woman's emotions and imagination, who never go
home alone.

Your biggest enemy is yourself

In order to be successful with women, you have to know the
right kind of characteristics to display to women.

In the dating field, your biggest enemy is YOURSELF. 
It's usually in your INSECURITIES and fear that she will leave
you that sobconciously makes most guys cling tightly to the
women they like.

But the more clingy you get, the further you'll repel her
away from you.

Most guys feel that they have to "chase" a woman in order to
make her yours.

The paradox to it is that we humans are naturally programmed
to run from that which pursues us. 
If you want to get good at this, my advice is for you to
start working on DEVELOPING your personality first... more
than anything else.

Humans are naturally attracted to things that are unique.

They are also attracted to things that are superior.


what happens when you "open up" yourself
too early during the courting phase.

Not a wise thing to do.
When a guy wants to be more than 'just friends' with a girl,
this is what usually happens:

- He will usually convince, coax and worst still, PERSUADE her
into seeing him as a potential boyfriend before making a move
on her.

- His plan of action will usually be to 'be there for her'
when she's in need.

- He'll be her intellectual whore, falsely hoping & attentively
listening to her bitching about the guys in her life, carefully
assuring her he'd make a better boyfriend than her current one.

Basically any form of trying to reason and persuade why she
should open up her heart and accept you... IT WON'T WORK!

You can't just "make" a woman "like you" or "change how she
feels about you" by doing nice things, reasoning and trying
to convince her into it...

Because women aren't anything like us at all.

They don't suddenly wake up one day, make a logical, conscious
decision and say "hey, he seems like a caring, sweet, nice man,
I think it's time for me to fall in love with him."

She won't suddenly 'decide' she wants to be attracted to you.
Attraction is not based on logic and will NEVER be.

A woman is either attracted to you or she's not.

It just happens!

For an average, typical guy, even at his very best, attraction
happens in a LINEAR fashion...

"So what do women really want?"

Here's my take on it:

What women say they want is not really what they want,
because 
WHAT THEY WANT IS FOR A MAN TO GIVE THEM WHAT THEY
WANT WITHOUT HAVING TO TELL THEM.

That's the best way to describe it.

Let me give you an example. Want to know why sending flowers
to women works for some?

It's NOT the flowers themselves that make her smile, but
the GESTURE.

It's proof that he THOUGHT about her that day.

It's an excuse to brag about him to her friends.

It isn't the bouquet that matters; it's the TIME it took him
to choose, buy and deliver them.

Want to know why some women go all excited when a guy brings
them out on romantic dinners?

It's NOT that he was willing to spend the money on her, it's
more the time, the thoughtful PLANNING he took to find out
what she likes that struck her chord.