I used to think that appearing "cool" was enough to get a
woman interested.
I thought that if I wore the right clothes, hung out with the
right crowd, and pretended hard enough "not to be interested"
in her.... She would magically become interested in me.
And here is the kicker....
It WORKED. She usually became interested.
Yes, I could tell that my "act" opened up a window of
opportunity for me to make my move.
But that window ALWAYS closed very quickly.
And I rarely got the girl...
You believe that you can "trick" a woman into falling for you.
But you can't.
You CAN trick her into becoming interested in you... but if you
can't back up that "cool guy" persona with the ability to talk
to her in a way that attracts and excites her....
You will ALWAYS lose out to the guy who can.
I can remember one time in particular. I was at one of my
friend's girlfriend's sorority house. She was throwing a small
party. I looked around and felt good... because by my estimation
I was the "coolest" guy there.
So I did what I did best back then...
I acted like the "cool, mysterious guy" who was a little too
pre-occupied with himself to bother overly socializing with
the girls at the party.
And sure enough...I was standing in the corner talking to one
of my friends... and this short, punkish, but incredibly cute
girl comes walking right up to me, sort of stands on her
tippy toes, and leans in and kisses me on the lips.
She then proceeds to tell me how she was watching me from
across the room and she thought I was adorable.
My friend casually slips away, giving me the big thumbs up.
But the minute I was alone in the corner with her... my mind
went blank. It was like a struggle to get even the most
ordinary conversation to come out of my mouth.
She asked me a few questions... and I sort of mumbled and
grunted my answers... trying to quickly gather up something
that would capture her interest...
Finally, I blurt out my clever line: "So what's your major?"...
The girl had just walked over, completely unprovoked, and
kissed me on the lips, tells me I'm adorable... and the only
thing I can think to say is "what's your major?"
Well, after a few more minutes of small talk mixed with
uncomfortable pauses, and me 'stuck in my head', sipping
my beer religiously, trying to divert the attention away
from the fact that I was desperately searching for what
to say next...
She tells me she has to use the bathroom.
She didn't come back.
What I learned the hard way was that you can have alpha
body language, a cutting edge sense of fashion, an army
of social proof...
But if you can't talk...
You ALWAYS lose to the guy who can...
ALWAYS!
So how do you overcome this?
BE THE GUY THAT CAN TALK....
A "Secret" Women Don't Talk About
Here is a secret that is not often talked about...
Women are rooting for you.
Yes, they want you to succeed.
They want you to hook them into a great conversation. They
want to feel an intense connection. They want "butterflies."
They want to be seduced. And yes, they want to have sex.
They are willing to cut you A LOT of slack.
A lot of the information out there tries to make picking
up chicks seem like this "mystical" thing with layers and
layers of information you need to know...
But the truth is...
You don't have to be SPECTACULAR...
You just have to be good enough...
You've probably sat and watched as a guy picked up a
beautiful woman and thought "He didn't say anything that
great..."
The bar is NOT that high.
You just have to be slightly better than the guys
around you.
And you win.
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Make Your Conversations "Pop"
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The conversation has to be fun and sexy.
That's it.
That has ALWAYS been it.
Fun and sexy.
FUN and SEXY.
This means:
1. You keep her entirely "in the moment."
2. You turn your conversation with her into a "fun" game.
3. You don't hide the fact that you're a sexual being.
4. You accept the fact that she is a sexual being.
5. You keep the "spotlight of the conversation" on the two of you
6. And you keep ESCALATING.
If I had to name the biggest reason most guys "blow it" is
because they don't keep escalating their conversations to the
next level...
If a conversation hits a plateau for too long... the tension is
released and she gets bored.
Many guys hit this "plateau" get frustrated, and give up.
So how do you overcome this "plateau?"
You are ALWAYS escalating the conversation.
Remember, she is rooting for you.
It's your job to not mess it up.
