women CRAVE a challenge, and are repelled
by men who make their interest obvious.
It's easy to tell yourself you're going to be "more
challenging" to women, but then you meet a hot chick and it
seems like she's into you, so you throw all the rules and
common sense out the window and just want to do it whatever it
takes to lock her down as your girlfriend.
Well, you ever notice what happens when you make an "exception"
and ignore these rules, and start texting her all the time
and trying to see her?
YOU LOSE.
Once you've shown weakness to
a woman, and made it obvious that you would crawl over
broken glass to get a date with her, it's not easy for you to
suddenly make her think you're some super-confident,
independent guy.
The way to salvage this situation is to LAY OFF her for
awhile. Go out and meet other women.
Remember this: when a girl seems to be interested in you,
but then acts like she's always too "busy" to see you, she's
testing you. She's not really THAT busy.
What she's doing is testing you. She's confused about her
feelings. On the one hand, she likes you... but on the other
hand, she's worried that you might be like all the other
guys who chase after her and wind up annoying her.
More specifically, she is worried that:
A) You're not really that desirable. You're not much of a
"prize." If you allow your world to revolve around her,
what does that say about your desirability?
Obviously, you don't have other options, which
means that women generally are not attracted to you. Women
will judge your value based on your desirablity to other
women.
They don't need to see you with other women, but they need
to feel that you are a prize, and that you have all kinds of
other options.
B) You're just trying to bang her. She worries that if she
"gives it up" to you, you're then going to ditch her and
move on to the next girl.
Either way, her solution is to play "hard to get" and see
what you're made of.
So, if you're going to re-establish contact with her and
try to get things back on track, you've got to make it EASY
for her to say "yes."
You don't tell her how you feel about her. You don't
apologize for anything. You contact her and you lay out a
firm GAME PLAN that sounds interesting and agreeable.
Forget about text-messaging her.
This is weak bullshit.
Call her.
She has to hear the enthusiasm and confidence in
your tone of your voice. If you leave a message on her
voicemail, here is the wrong way, and the right way, to do
it:
WACK TACTIC: "Hey, it's Simon. Um, I know we haven't talked
in a while, I was just wondering how you've been..."
MACK TACTIC: "What's up, it's Simon. Listen, I was thinking
of you the other night, I discovered this new after-work
spot for Happy Hour, and it's exactly your type of vibe.
I saw one of your friends there, it was really funny
actually. Give me a ring. Talk to you soon."
(Did you actually see her friend there? No, but it's an
added "hook" to get her to return your phone call. If she
questions you on this, just say, "actually, I thought I saw
one of your friends so I walked over and said hi, and it
turned out to be a girl that looked exactly like her.
I swear, your friend has a twin. Anyway, so I'll be going
back there on Friday night, come meet me for a drink
because I've got some really cool news that I want to tell
you about."
Again, you're giving her a hook. You want to tell her
some "cool news."
What is this news?
It doesn't really matter. When you meet her, if she asks,
just make something up.
It could be something that happened at your job, or
something exciting that happened to a friend of yours.
Whatever.
The point is, you've gotten her to agree to see you.
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