Builds sexual tension, out of Friend zone

the difference between how men and women judge SUCCESS
with the opposite sex is when a man is interested in a woman, he judges success
by how much physical contact he makes with her. (In other
words, how "far" he gets with her. First base... second
base...and so on.)

Women view the game differently. When woman is interested
in a man, SHE considers it a success when he confirms that
he is romantically interested in her.

What this basically means is, once you've made it clear
to a woman that you like her...and you're into her...she
feels that she has SUCCEEDED.

In a sense, she knows that she has already "won" the game.


Now, this isn't necessarily a bad thing. If the feeling
is mutual, and the two of you are both into each other,
then it's probably the beginning of a sexual relationship
and all the good stuff that comes with it.

The problem is that most guys BROADCAST their interest,
before giving the woman any reason to feel sexual attraction.

This means there is NO chance for sexual tension to build.

It means she doesn't view him as a CHALLENGE or a PRIZE.

She views him as JUST ANOTHER TYPICAL GUY who is eager to
get a girlfriend, or get laid, and it's up to her to decide
whether he's worthy of her time.


This is the WRONG approach. Unfortunately, I'd say 90%
of men broadcast this message to women: "You're beautiful,
I totally dig you, and I'd love to date you, if you decide
that I'm up to YOUR standards."

I've said it over and over again, and I'll say it
once more: what women love is a CHALLENGE.

Does she get the sense that you're a lonely guy, with not
much going on his life, and you're eager and willing to
date the first good-looking woman who gives you the time
of day?
Or, does she sense that you're "in demand?" That you've got
friends, a large social network that includes other women...
and there's going to be COMPETITION from those other women
we'd get to know each other, and she would always ask me, "So are you seeing
anyone right now?" (Or ask a similar question, to find out
whether I was "available," or "taken.")

Well, because I was eager to get a girl, I would always make
it clear that I was TOTALLY single. I'd say, "Oh, no, I'm not
dating anyone. I'm single, I broke up with my last girlfriend
a year ago."

I wanted her to know, if she was interested in me, I was
completely READY for a relationship with her.

That was the WRONG way to play it.

These days, I'll tell the girl, "I'm seeing some different
people on a casual basis. I'd like to find the right girl,
but I guess my standards are pretty high, and I've got a
very busy life right now."

You NEVER want to confess your attraction to a woman
before you've slept with her. 
Instead of telling her about yourself, trying to meet her
standards, make HER want to convince YOU that she's up to your standards.

Instead of being "eager to please," you'll learn how to
TEASE and CHALLENGE her (in a playful way) so that she
wants to "beat" the other women that are competing for
you.
Being a CHALLENGE to women is what builds sexual tension
and attraction. Give her the challenge she craves, and
she'll pursue you.

In control,be a Challenge; make woman said yes everytime

When women say they love a sense of humor, what they really
mean is they love the deeper ATTITUDE that a sense of humor
points to.

Guys who are funny, playful and nonchalant around women -- and

even better, can bust on women and tease them a little -- are

obviously confident and in control of their reality.

These guys don't look to women for approval.

They don't radiate anxiety. 

1. Women love men who present a challenge.
2. Women are fascinated by men who are "in demand" and
obviously have other romantic/sexual options.

Women, by nature, are jealous and competitive when it comes to
men. Give her the sense that she'll have to step up and WIN
you away from other women, and the game is on!

A playful, cocky guy radiates this attitude. 
The average guy takes himself WAY too seriously when it comes
to women, and is constantly asking himself unnecessary
questions:

"Does this shirt look good on me?"
"Is she going to get annoyed if I walk up and talk to her?"
"What if she has a boyfriend?"
"Where should I take her on a date?"
"What if we run out of things to talk about?"
"If I ask for her phone number, will she think I'm some
stalker?"
"Is it too soon to try to touch her?"

When you allow your brain to fire off these questions, it
DESTROYS your ability to be fun, spontaneous and playful.

You're allowing yourself to be preoccupied by unimportant
details, when you SHOULD be asking yourself questions that
boost your confidence and remind you to stay sharp and on
top of your game:

"This girl is cute, but is she interesting enough for me
to date?'

"Is she smart and funny enough to hold a conversation with
me?"

"What can I teach this girl, that she'd never learn from
the average guy?"

"What should I mention about myself, to really make this
girl curious about me?"

"How far am I going to take this tonight, and what's my
plan?" 
When you're getting to know a girl, and you make a request
that she can simply say "no" to, chances are she will:

Him: Can I buy you a drink?
Her: No.
Him: Can I have your number?
Her: No.
Him: Can I kiss you?
Her: No.
Him: Want to go back to my place?
Her: Hell no.
Him: Can I see you again?
Her: I'm pretty busy...for the next six months.

One technique is to rephrase your questions so that you
give women "false choices." This means you are not giving
her the chance to say "no." 
You are assuming that she's going to go with your flow, and
implying that.

Lead the interaction, and if she's at all interested in you,
or at least curious, she'll go along with it and never shut
you down with a "no."

WACK: Can I buy you a drink?

MACK: So tell me something interesting about yourself,
that's going to make me want to have a drink with you.
WACK: Would you like to dance?

MACK: I'm going to need to take you onto the dance floor. I
don't want you standing here looking like a wallflower.

WACK: Would you like to hang out sometime?
MACK: My friends told me about this new lounge that has
great music on Friday and Saturday nights. Which night is
better for you?

Remember: boring, ordinary guys are constantly asking
permission from women. This results in a lot of "No's," and
a lot of disappointment, frustration.