Get back on track, woman crave a challenge

women CRAVE a challenge, and are repelled
by men who make their interest obvious.

It's easy to tell yourself you're going to be "more
challenging" to women, but then you meet a hot chick and it
seems like she's into you, so you throw all the rules and
common sense out the window and just want to do it whatever it
takes to lock her down as your girlfriend.

Well, you ever notice what happens when you make an "exception"
and ignore these rules, and start texting her all the time
and trying to see her?

YOU LOSE.
Once you've shown weakness to
a woman, and made it obvious that you would crawl over
broken glass to get a date with her, it's not easy for you to
suddenly make her think you're some super-confident,
independent guy.

The way to salvage this situation is to LAY OFF her for
awhile. Go out and meet other women.
Remember this: when a girl seems to be interested in you,
but then acts like she's always too "busy" to see you, she's
testing you. She's not really THAT busy.
What she's doing is testing you. She's confused about her
feelings. On the one hand, she likes you... but on the other
hand, she's worried that you might be like all the other
guys who chase after her and wind up annoying her.

More specifically, she is worried that:

A) You're not really that desirable. You're not much of a
"prize." If you allow your world to revolve around her,
what does that say about your desirability?

Obviously, you don't have other options, which
means that women generally are not attracted to you. Women
will judge your value based on your desirablity to other
women.

They don't need to see you with other women, but they need
to feel that you are a prize, and that you have all kinds of
other options.

B) You're just trying to bang her. She worries that if she
"gives it up" to you, you're then going to ditch her and
move on to the next girl.

Either way, her solution is to play "hard to get" and see
what you're made of.

So, if you're going to re-establish contact with her and
try to get things back on track, you've got to make it EASY
for her to say "yes."

You don't tell her how you feel about her. You don't
apologize for anything. You contact her and you lay out a
firm GAME PLAN that sounds interesting and agreeable.

Forget about text-messaging her.

This is weak bullshit. 
Call her.

She has to hear the enthusiasm and confidence in
your tone of your voice. If you leave a message on her
voicemail, here is the wrong way, and the right way, to do
it:

WACK TACTIC: "Hey, it's Simon. Um, I know we haven't talked
in a while, I was just wondering how you've been..."

MACK TACTIC: "What's up, it's Simon. Listen, I was thinking
of you the other night, I discovered this new after-work
spot for Happy Hour, and it's exactly your type of vibe.

I saw one of your friends there, it was really funny
actually. Give me a ring. Talk to you soon."

(Did you actually see her friend there? No, but it's an
added "hook" to get her to return your phone call. If she
questions you on this, just say, "actually, I thought I saw
one of your friends so I walked over and said hi, and it
turned out to be a girl that looked exactly like her.

I swear, your friend has a twin. Anyway, so I'll be going
back there on Friday night, come meet me for a drink
because I've got some really cool news that I want to tell
you about."

Again, you're giving her a hook. You want to tell her
some "cool news."

What is this news?

It doesn't really matter. When you meet her, if she asks,
just make something up.

It could be something that happened at your job, or
something exciting that happened to a friend of yours.

Whatever.

The point is, you've gotten her to agree to see you. 

The bad boy tactics

The attraction is rooted in the female
DNA. Women are subconsciously seeking a man who makes
them feel secure, who has the ability to protect her
and their offspring.


In this day and age, one doesn't need the physical
strength to slay dinosaurs or fend off barbarian hordes.

Bad Boys don't need to have money, either. It's their
emotional strength that women are drawn towards. They play
by their own rules and have unstoppable self-confidence,
which means they've possess survival tools that the
sensitive "metrosexuals" lack. 

Another element of the attraction is that women want
what they can't have.

Meanwhile, Nice Guys bend over backwards to avoid drama;
Bad Boys give women all the drama they can handle.

For women, the emotional rollercoaster of dating a
Bad Boy--who's always got other hotties on speed-dial,
and is constantly challenging her to hold his
interest--becomes addicting.
First, stop making yourself constantly available to
women. you can send themessage that you live a rich, busy Alpha Male lifestyle by simply taking a different tact when women want to make plans with you. 
Let's say you exchanged phone numbers with a hottie
the other day. She calls you up and says, "Me and
my friends are going out tonight to the bar, do
you want to come meet up?"

WACK RESPONSE: "Definitely! I can be there in an hour."

MACK RESPONSE: "Well, I have some appointments tonight...
but if I can get freed up a bit later, I'll try to
stop by and make an appearance."

There's a major difference in how a woman will
perceive these two types of responses: you're
either the typical, eager-to-please dude with
nothing else going on his life, or you're the
Mack who fits women into his schedule, and only
sees women at his convenience.

(What are your "other appointments?" You keep this
vague on purpose. Women will usually assume you're
spending time with other women, and this is a GOOD
thing...)

Next, it's critical that you are a decision maker
instead of always putting the ball in her court.
I'll tell you a secret about women: they hate to
make decisions. This has to do with how they're
wired.

Men are wired to operate according to logic, and
to solve problems so that they avoid uneccessary
bullshit and drama; women are ruled by their
emotions, which are constantly shifting and can
erupt into drama for no apparent reason.

(Women subconsciously seek to create drama, especially
when they're in relationships, as it serves to make
their partner reassure them and confirm that he's
there to support her.)

A woman can experience turbulent emotions over
something as simple as making plans for next
Saturday night, or figuring out which dress to buy.

As a man, you've got to be the emotional rock who makes
the decisions and puts her emotions in check.

By always making the necessary decisions and laying
out the gameplan, she will be compelled to follow your
lead. This, in turn, makes her feel secure with you.

Let's look at another example. You call a girl
to plan a date...
WACK APPROACH: "So I was thinking, maybe if you're free
sometime, we could do something..."

MACK APPROACH: "You said you don't work on Friday night,
and there's this awesome new café with great music that
I want to show you. I'm going there Friday around nine
o'clock, I can pick you up and we can go together."

Most importantly, stop broadcasting your interest.

Never make it obvious that you're into a girl; the Bad
Boy always keeps women guessing. This means no more
complimenting women on their beauty, confessing your
attraction, or being available anytime she wants to see
you or chat on the phone.

Maintain an element of mystery and never act easily
impressed. 
This attitude is manifested in the way you converse
with women:
playfully teasing women and throwing out little
"challenges" to see if she meets your high standards,
rather than taking the typical approach--which is to
talk about yourself and try to impress her.



There's a scene in The Empire Strikes Back that says
it all.
Han Solo (played by Harrison Ford) is about to be
dragged off to the deep-freeze chamber. Princess Leia
only has a couple of seconds to say goodbye.

The sexual tension and attraction has been building up
between them. They share a passionate kiss, and she
blurts out, "I love you."

Han looks at her coolly and says, "I know."

That's a classic Bad Boy reply. It comes down to being
the prize instead of the pursuer.