NO Convince, Coax, Persuade

When a guy wants to be more than 'just friends' with a girl, this is what usually happens:

- He will usually convince, coax and worst still, PERSUADE her into seeing him as a potential boyfriend before making a move on her.

- His plan of action will usually be to 'be there for her' when she's in need.

- He'll be her intellectual whore, falsely hoping & attentively listening to her bitching about the guys in her life, carefully assuring her he'd make a better boyfriend than her current one.

- His actions are well-calculated, meticulously planned and when he sees the chance, he'll say something that goes like this...

And he'll quietly go under the radar, treating her extra nice, buying her stuff, 'offering emotional support', basically all the goody things to prove how DEPENDABLE he can be as a boyfriend...

The worst are those that'll just flat out bash the 'other' guy... "He's such a jerk, why are u still going out with him" "You clearly deserve someone better..."

- Confessed how madly you're in love with her and how you'd do anything for her

- Convinced her that you're the ultimate "nice guy" by being the sweet, gentle, and caring man she 'should' love?

- Persistently telling her, giving her the reassurance on how different you are from the other guys around, how you'll sacrifice everything, be there for her and give her the world?

- Act depressed so that she'll feel bad for you and "give you a chance"?

Basically any form of trying to reason and persuade why she should open up her heart and accept you... IT WON'T WORK!

You can't just "make" a woman "like you" or "change how she feels about you" by doing nice things, reasoning and trying to convince her into it... Because women aren't anything like us at all.

They don't suddenly wake up one day, make a logical, conscious decision and say "hey, he seems like a caring, sweet, nice man, I think it's time for me to fall in love with him."

Attraction is not based on logic and will NEVER be. A woman is either attracted to you or she's not. It just happens!

It's so common for guys make the mistake of thinking that they have to coax a woman they are friends with into seeing them as a potential boyfriend before making a move on her.

Think of the guy, for example, who attentively watches and listens as his gal pal wails over her current love life; and, then, assures her that he'd make a better boyfriend than her current one.

These are the most COMMON mistakes guys do... And sad to say, not only are these actions COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE, but it completely REPELS her further away making it less likely she'll EVER feel the same way for you!

Similarly, if you do something to let a 'friend' know how you feel... but she isn't ATTRACTED to you in the first place, she WILL run... and never turn back.

The solution then is to get HER TO LIKE YOU before she finds out YOU LIKE HER.

And to do this, you have to build ATTRACTION and COMFORT - the two biggest pieces

Never confess your feelings or try to persuade her to "feel" it for you.

Work instead on DEMONTRATING attractive qualities and generating ATTRACTION and seducing her into your 'trap.' To do this, she has to be attracted to you as a sexually attractive MAN.

Therefore, as a man, you should approach EVERY attractive female as a potential mate.

If you fail to impress her and see you as a 'potential' when you first meet her, it's most likely that you'll end up in her "Friend" zone. "

So what do women really want?"
What women say they want is not really what they want, because WHAT THEY WANT IS FOR A MAN TO GIVE THEM WHAT THEY WANT WITHOUT HAVING TO TELL THEM.

Example:
Want to know why sending flowers to women works for some?

It's NOT the flowers themselves that make her smile, but the GESTURE. It's proof that he THOUGHT about her that day. It's an excuse to brag about him to her friends.

It isn't the bouquet that matters; it's the TIME it took him to choose, buy and deliver them.

Want to know why some women go all excited when a guy brings them out on romantic dinners?

It's NOT that he was willing to spend the money on her, it's more the time, the thoughtful PLANNING he took to find out what she likes that struck her chord.