Control the conversation

If you're like 90% of guys, you think conversation is about getting to know her, having her get to know you, and just being casual and laidback. Just go with the flow, right?

Well, NOT if you want to get results. If you want to GUARANTEE that you get her phone number and meet her for a date in the future ... or, bring her home TONIGHT ... you've got to get STRATEGIC with the way you converse with women.

Conversation is a TOOL that is going to get you where you want to go. This means no more awkward silences, while you wonder what to say next ... or feeling phony because you're relying on some stupid "pickup routine"

As a MAN, you're going to CONTROL the conversation and guide it along. You're not just talking aimlessly, going with the flow, chatting about whatever topic she brings up.

There is going to be a definite PURPOSE to every conversation you initiate with a woman, and a RESULT you are steering it towards.

It SEEMS like a normal conversation ... on the surface. The woman doesn't suspect anything out of the ordinary: he just seems like a cool guy who has interesting things to say. But under the surface, he is executing a game plan. He is building a RAPID CONNECTION with her. He makes her feel a level of COMFORT with him that the average guy couldn't create, even after spending hours with her!

Create a sense of COMFORT and FAMILIARITY. Think about the POWER and CONFIDENCE you'll have as you're out with women. Women can "sense" these "things". ... and they'll *secretly* love it to death! It makes them feel safe, secure; being with a REAL man,at the same time, feeling all *girly girl* inside.

ALL of the steps that go into making a successful approach, building a bond, establishing comfort and rapport, and leading the encounter towards "closing the deal."

For now, let's run down a few key pointers: Keep the spotlight on her. Women love a man who listens and appreciates what she has to say. The more details she shares about herself, the stronger the connection grows. (It's all about knowing how to ask the right questions. Phrasing is everything.)

Cut through the small talk and take it to a deeper level. Don't get stuck talking about jobs. Mention the things you are most passionate about, and get her to share hers. (Get her to reveal a goal or a dream of hers, and be encouraging and supportive, and you're really in the door ... )

If you're passionate about your work, that's great. But don't dwell on the present. Talk about future possibilities. And remember, if you're not yet where you want to be, in terms of money and success, you can generate strong attraction from women if you show AMBITION and PASSION. (The Women Persuasion Mastery Program has an amazing section on this as well)

an ambitious, passionate guy makes her feel, "this guy's life is on an exciting, positive track. It would be cool to be a part of it." Maintain a sense of MYSTERY.

During the initial conversation, it's best to leave questions about yourself unanswered. Make her want to find out more.

Here are some examples...
Which sounds better?
"I work at a restaurant." Or...
"I work in the restaurant industry. Right now I'm learning all I can about the business, because a few years from now I plan on opening my own place. It's always been a goal of mine.
What about you...I get the sense you're an ambitious person, is there a goal you're working towards right now?" (Here, you demonstrated ambition and passion, then you turned the spotlight back onto her.)

Which sounds better?
"I'm between jobs right now..." Or...
"I'm checking out a number of different business opportunities right now, I like to stay busy. What about you, how do you spend your days when you're not working?"

Or, you might have achieved some success in your career. In this case, don't boast about it or go into detail. Just ALLUDE to the fact that you're a sharp, successful guy with even bigger things on the horizon.

Positive can be phrased so that it BUILDS YOU UP in her eyes.