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Friday 7 November 2008

Pick up girls in club

When you're in a bar/club setting and you're looking out for IOIs (Indicators of Interest) to know whether a girl is interested if she:

Moves closer to you during your conversation
Asks if you have a girlfriend
Waits for you if you go somewhere (ie: to the bar or bathroom)
Stays with you when her friends move away
Touches you during the conversation
Talks about your girlfriend without asking if you have one (hoping that you'll say that you don't have a girlfriend)

It means she's interested... to a certain extent. I have to say that some times when you're out in the field, try not to place too much emphasis on looking for her to showyou 'signs' that she's interested.

You might get it if you're super good looking but your goal isto attract her with your PERSONALITY, NOT LOOKS.
And chances are, if you're not good looking, most girls (espin a bar/club setting) won't even bother to notice.
As you're out approaching women, you have to CREATE opportunities, not WAIT for them to present themselves to you.

Remember the 3-second rule! If you like someone, JUST GO and not hesitate. Anything longer than 3 seconds and you'll probably talk yourself out of doing it.

And once you get the IOIs, I would say you have ESCALATE the chance. Start touching her more, not groping, just let your hands gradually touch her.

For instance if you're moving places in the bar, put your arm down on her waist or shoulder and guide her. Even better, just grab her hand and walk with her. Trust me, if she likes you, she WON'T pull away.

The minute I'm holding hands with a girl I know I'm "in". That's when I'll start busting on her like mad and escalate iteven more... look right into her eyes,

"I so want to kissyou right now"... then I pull away, grab her and bring her to another area within the club.
Bring her along to as many "places" as you can to get her COMFORTABLE with you.
And when she LEAST expects it, you come from behind and smell her neck.

That being said, in terms of IOIs, once you get more than 4 or 5 of them from a girl, your next step should be to hold her hand. And then you gradually move on, STEP BY STEP.

Interesting conversation topics

If you want to attract a woman, what matters most is the ENERGY you bring to your interactions with her
NOT just boring talk. It's the ENERGY, the vibe that she FEELS when she's with you that will help her decide whether she wants to see you and spend time again with you in the future.

That being said, the stuff you SHOULD talk about?

Travel & Holidays - Women usually LOVE to travel As you're talking to her, be extremely DESCRIPTIVE as you're sharing your own exciting travel experiences.
This is where your storytelling skills come in. It's where you can draw her in to your reality and indirectly demonstrate your own qualities as someone who's fun, adventerous and EXCITING!

Fashion, style and Shopping - Women's FAVORITE. Here you can let her 'teach' you a thing or two about the latest trends, styles, where to get the best deals in town, etc.
Get her to be your fashion consultant, tell her you SUCK at it(don't worry, it's ok to suck when it comes to style,you're a GUY. Women know that guys generally SUCK when it comesto fashion)

Perfume/Jewelry - Tell her you LOVE how she's smelling, get her to talk about her favorite perfumes and comment on any jewelry she's wearing.
Women will LOVE you when they can talk to you about jewelry all night long...

Men and Relationships - The female population can never get enough talking about who's cheating on who, who's going out with whom, touching/romantic/funny love stories, basically anything about men and relationships will get her EXCITED to ramble on and on.

Celebrity Gossips - Gossips alone can be one. Adding the "celebrity" aspect into it, and you can start arguing and making fun of one another's opinions all day.
This can be a real "deal-closer" when you know how to integrate this aspect and turn it into a seductive interaction later on in your game.

Music - When you talk about her favorite songs, artists ormusic, drill in, dig AS DEEP as you can on the reasons why she loves it, get her to reveal what she's FEELING inside, get her to reveal the STORIES behind the MEANINGS of the songs she loves.
Note: There's ALWAYS a story, and your job is to dig it out ofher. Personal CONNECTIONS and BONDING can be established this way.
You can get A LOT of personal details about who she really is underneath when she talks.
The type of person she is and stuff. This is also one of my favorite ways to start amping up the sexual tension later on during a date with a woman.

I've got nothing to lose

Do you realize that when you're so into this ONE girl, it makes you try a little "too hard" to not "screw things up" and that can be BAD.
Even just "asking her out for a dance" Then comes "what should I... "How should I... "When should I (....) to make her happy and like me?"

This is the one-i-got syndrome.
It's when you only like that ONE special girl, you liked her too much to the point where and you simply CANNOT AFFORD to screw it up with her

THAT'S where the game is finished before it even starts with her.
Because the paradox to it is that the MORE you try not to screw it up, the MORE you'll actually end up screwing it anyway.

Even guys would normally "hold back" and "not be their usual selves" when they're with a girl they like fearing that they might say or do something wrong that might offend her and she'll just walk away?

The first thing you have to do is to go in with a "I've got nothing to lose" mindset.

If you were to compare the "success rates" between a guy who is ALREADY attached and something who's still single when their out with a girl, chances are the guy who already has a girlfriend will win... most of the time.

Why? Because whether he gets the girl at the end of the day ornot, he DOESN'T REALLY CARE. That's cos he'll go all out and does whatever he FEELS LIKE DOING to get her as he knows he has NOTHING TO LOSE. Next is for you to go out and HUNT for AT LEAST another 3 girls to mess with.

Advantages:
You'll get more REAL-LIFE practice
Your dating 'skills' will improve EXPONENTIALLY by going after 4 girls simultaneously.
You won't CARE whether you'll be screwing it up with this girl anymore.

Why does it help? With so many other options around you, you won't be looking to impress her, you'll become INDIFFERENT to the outcome when you're with her, and this in turn helps give you MORE BALLS to tease, mess and make fun of her even more which will eventually FUEL her interest in you even further.

How to be different?
1) Pretend that you've known her for YEARS (even if you don't), and that you're TOO comfortable around her.
Tease her, bust on her for something that no one DARES tease her about...

You: Hey where'd you get that bag? It SOO adorable!
Her: Thanks! Bla, bla, blaYou: I've soo gota get one for my mom

Her: Do you think I look fat in this?
You: I didn't want to say anything but...

Her: (mispronounces or fumbles on her words)
You: (turn to her friends) Is she always like this? Her: *Whacks*

2) Pretend that she's interested in YOU, and hasbeen pursuing YOU, and that you're resisting her.
You: (walk right in front of her and look back at her) Oh no you did NOT just check out my ass!)
Her: You're funny.You: Maybe that's why you like me :-)

Most guys will go all out to be nice, cordial, and friendly to her, give her compliments and stuff. You do a complete 180 on her.

There's just so many forms of teasing, busting and messing with women that you can use to bring out the "fun" and "flirty" energy in your interactions with women.

These are the stuff that INFLAMES a woman's inner passions and triggers magnetic emotions of ATTRACTION in her for YOU
You just have to WHEN and HOW to say it in a SYSTEMATIC, REPEATABLE way

I make more money than you?

WHenever you come across guys who brags about how "I make more money than you", "I have a better body than you", you can do 2 things:
1 - IGNORE
2 - Ride with it:
"Yeah dude, I know, how'd you do it?"
"what's the secret?"
Guys who make fun, belittle and insult others are usually the MOST insecure.

The feeling of insecurity forces them to say things out in the open in front of women as a front to look "cool", at the same time hiding their own insecutities and FEAR of not knowing how to behave and act around women themselves.

If you confront him, it'll make the BOTH of you look CHILDISH in front of women
Just let it be and have the power to just WALK AWAY