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Sunday 25 May 2008

How to ask a woman out

"Can I take you out sometimes?"
"Can I buy you a dinner sometimes?"
These lines are terrible, and while they will not necessarily cause rejection and a bad date.

This is simply a wrong way to ask a woman out because it suggests to her that you are not good enough for her , but the only reason she should hang out with you is because you are going to buy something to her.

This is the exact opposite of what you should be doing.

Being interesting, different and funny is what will make you truly attractive and not the toys, the food and other things that you can buy to a woman.

Instead of using the above lines, the next time ask a woman out, say something like:

"Hey, I know this great cafe near this beautiful park - lets go there this Monday evening, pick up something warm to drink and take a walk together."

To be interesting

To be attractive, you must come across as interesting. "Interesting" means unusual / non-typical.

If all you do during your conversation with a woman is nod an agree with everything she says without challenging her and / or teasing her periodically, you are likely to come across as a very boring company.

Playing it safe and NOT showing your true self will likely waste your time and hers because eventually you will show your true colors and so will she, so why not find out if you really like each other early on?

Saying a joke or teasing a woman is one of the most effective and reliable ways to assess her personality.

Is she uptight or easy going? Is she fun or will he be a pain in the ass? That's what you want to find out as early as possible.

When a woman says: "You are such a sweet guy, you must be getting lots of women"

Don't say "Oh, no. I am waiting for that special woman,"
Instead use it as an opportunity to be funny and attractive: "Yeah, it's kind of hard and confusing. You should register online to join the group of those women so I don't forget about you. Ah.... what's your name again?"

Love and Space

It is mistake that people thought that if you love someone, you should show it by spending as much time with each other as possible.

This notion of love is a result of insecurity and lack of self-identity ,avoid submitting to such an immature notion

The reality is that EVERYONE needs space whether they know it or not. Everyone needs that time alone to "reset" and reorganize themselves
There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with it; in fact it's perfectly natural.

Too many people take the "I need time alone" personally as a statement that reflects lack of care and love.

Make sure you don't commit that mistake. Make sure you treat your own desire for space and that of your partner with full understanding and respect.

After all, just like with your favourite food, you are much better off missing the company of your partner and wanting to have it again, rather than being fully "satiated" with it.